Have you ever found yourself in agameof “Would You Rather?” or “What Would You Do?” You know, those games that are filled with hypothetical questions where you have to choose between the devil and the deep blue sea. Now, imagine one of those scenarios came to life.

Today’s Original Poster (OP) and his wife were no strangers to these types of conversations, so when they found themselves in the same position, the OP believed he had passed the test. However, what he thought was a pass was barely one.

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The author explained that his wife was in labor and he was on his way to the hospital when he received a call that his mom had fainted

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Regardless, he went to the hospital to be there for his wife and told her later that he would have to go check on his mom

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His wife was glad he had chosen to be with her at the hospital, and he affirmed this but added that he wanted to be there for the birth of the child

This left his wife very upset, and the author very confused because he thought he had done the right thing

Suddenly, he found himself in those hypothetical situations he and hiswifehad always discussed. He proceeded to tell his sister that his wife was in labor. Fortunately, her labor went smoothly, and their daughter was born healthy. He told his wife what had happened and then managed to visit his mother later, who, despite the appearance of things, was going to be okay.

His wife mentioned that he had indeed picked her, to which he responded that he would definitely pick her. He mentioned that his mother had his siblings, anyway, and that he had to be there for the birth of theirchild. Everything had been perfect until he made that statement. According to her, this meant that the OP hadn’t really chosen her, but had chosen their daughter instead.

This left the OP feeling confused, especially since he believed he had clearly chosen her. Now, seeing her so upset that he had “chosen their newborn daughter” left him questioning whether this was hormonal. As he tried to explain that he valued both of them equally—especially her, since they wouldn’t have any children without her—his wife’s sadness only deepened.

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To better understand why the OP’s wife may have felt so deeply hurt,Bored Pandareached out to psychotherapistMvumbi Kumbu, who explained that the wife’s response likely stems from something deeper. He pointed out that women with insecure attachment styles or conditions like borderline personality disorder may struggle with feelings of rejection or abandonment, especially after childbirth.

“Her reaction isn’t just about this one situation, it’s likely tied to deeper fears of being left behind or forgotten,” Kumbu explained, highlighting how past experiences and emotional wiring can intensify feelings of neglect or insecurity.

When asked how childhood attachments influence a person’s reactions in moments ofcrisis, he pointed once again to the attachment theory. “People with insecure or anxious attachment styles, may struggle to process emotional distress rationally,” he noted before suggesting that understanding these patterns can help partners approach conflict with more patience and empathy.

He added that women, in particular, rely on emotional validation to feel secure in relationships, and when their feelings are taken seriously, it tends to strengthen trust and reassurance.

Netizens were largely empathetic toward the OP, acknowledging that postpartum hormones can cause heightened emotions. Some suggested that while he might not fully understand why she’s upset, she simply needed reassurance. Others provided fresh insight, pointing out that the OP’s response to his wife was hurtful, as it made her feel like she was only valued for bearing children.

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