Nothing makes a woman’s heart flutter like being asked to reimburse her date for half of the pizza they shared, or being told that she’s not allowed to order any drinks except water because that would be too expensive.Dating definitely should not be about having money, but it can sometimes be a red flag when individuals aren’t willing to spend at all. Women on Reddit have recently beendetailingtheir experiences with dating people who are frugal to a fault, so we’ve gathered some of their most shocking stories below. Keep reading to find a conversation with Master Certified Relationship CoachAmie Leadingham, and be sure to upvote the tales that make you grateful that your partner doesn’t send invoices after every date!This post may includeaffiliate links.
Nothing makes a woman’s heart flutter like being asked to reimburse her date for half of the pizza they shared, or being told that she’s not allowed to order any drinks except water because that would be too expensive.
Dating definitely should not be about having money, but it can sometimes be a red flag when individuals aren’t willing to spend at all. Women on Reddit have recently beendetailingtheir experiences with dating people who are frugal to a fault, so we’ve gathered some of their most shocking stories below. Keep reading to find a conversation with Master Certified Relationship CoachAmie Leadingham, and be sure to upvote the tales that make you grateful that your partner doesn’t send invoices after every date!
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Bf of 3 years got into a small car accident, where air bags went off. He called me from the garage and said he decided to only replace the driver’s seat airbag and not passenger’s seat because each airbag was a few hundred dollars to replace.I was the main person sitting in that passenger seat.After I heard him say that with complete nonchalance (and knowing he had $10k in the bank), I realized he just truly did not care about me, and couldn’t be a partner.
He wanted to pay the dinner bill in front of his colleagues and then ask me to transfer him money afterwards so they didn’t see him making his girlfriend pay for her own meal. He made 4x what I made and was obsessed with saving every penny of that. Never again lmao
I went on a first date with a guy who suggested we go to a restaurant because he had a coupon and then decided it was too far of a drive and he didn’t want to spend the gas money (it was like a 15 minute drive) so then he flipped through his wallet of coupons and found one for applebees for free wings with the purchase of a beer. i’m not a huge fan of wings but just thought that’s great he can get some wings for his meal. we got there and he immediately told the waitress he had a coupon, asked for the cheapest beer they had, and ordered his wings. then the waitress looked at me and asked what i wanted, and before i could speak he tells her i’m having the wings with him and i said “actually no thanks” and ordered some food for myself and he got visibly upset and then wouldn’t speak to me and watched basketball on the tv for the remainder of the date. then when the waitress came and asked if the check would be together, he hesitated so i quickly asked for separate checks. frugality is fine, but this man’s financial situation was equal to my own.bonus content: before the date, we met at a park and he started fishing (??) so I wandered around until he was done (and took a picture of him with his fish), then he played his guitar at me for an hour insisting i sing with him (i cannot sing), and on the way home he told me women shouldn’t work and belong in the home and basically told me i had a joke major because I was an art student and that that was great for me but he has to be more serious and isn’t comfortable working a service job after college.
To learn more about why frugality can be seen as a negative quality when dating, we reached out to Master Certified Relationship CoachAmie Leadinghamto hear her thoughts.“It can be perceived as a bad thing in dating because the person may be viewed as prioritizing the importance of money over the relationship,” Amie explained. “It may come off as a selfish trait as well, depends on the level of frugality and situation.”
To learn more about why frugality can be seen as a negative quality when dating, we reached out to Master Certified Relationship CoachAmie Leadinghamto hear her thoughts.
“It can be perceived as a bad thing in dating because the person may be viewed as prioritizing the importance of money over the relationship,” Amie explained. “It may come off as a selfish trait as well, depends on the level of frugality and situation.”
I’d say this is just being a cheap idiot rather than frugal, but I was sick with COVID and asked if he could bring me some grapes and frozen mango. He dropped them off at my door, then sent me a Venmo request for the $10 they cost.Meanwhile, I had gotten him a $300 pair of glasses, let him eat out of my cupboard & fridge whenever he came over, routinely picked him up at the airport, and the only date he ever took me on was our first date to Starbucks.
He didn’t plan ahead and went on a roadtrip with his elderly father. He refused to pay for a hotel/motel because is was over $100 a night and made his father, who was in his late 80s sleep in his Volkswagen golf.
We also asked the dating expert what some reasonable frugal habits might be when dating. “Being intentional with your short term spending in order to save for long term goals as a couple,” Amie told Bored Panda. “For example, instead of going out to a fancy restaurant, pack a beautiful picnic and go to a romantic location for date nights. The money saved could be put towards a couple’s vacation!”
My ex took me out on a date to this steak place that he loves so much. He ordered some wine for us, appetizers, sides, mains, dessert, etc. The whole shebang. Everything was going great. Good food. Amazing conversations. Lovely atmosphere. Then, the bill came… “FK!“Thinking something was wrong with the bill, I asked about it. He lost his st because he didn’t expect the bill to be that much. He ordered EVERYTHING. I didn’t even bother to look at the menu (because I got overwhelmed with the myriad of options, lol). I also told him he was ordering too much food.He would NOT stop cursing under his breath. He was VISIBLY so mad. I started to feel embarrassed as he won’t stop, so I asked if it’s going to help if I just paid half of the bill. Just to get it over with. He IMMEDIATELY stopped throwing a fit, calmed down, and said, “Yeah, that would be good.“I never let him “take me out on a date” ever again after that. I always pushed to pay for my share even if he “insisted” on paying.No, we’re not together anymore. And the total bill was $110. Lol
I once was asked to Venmo him two dollars for the few bites I took out of his six-dollar rice platter.
One guy told me he has a credit card that gives 25 cents back per transaction. He uses self checkout and does a separate transaction for each item. He also pays $400/month in rent, despite making around $120K/year as a private LMFT. When I went to his house it was infested with mice, he didn’t have flooring (literally was walking around on the subfloor), and the whole house smelled horribly like animal feces. Disgusting. And he comes across as super put together and professional.. it totally threw me off.
He asked if I wanted to go to dinner to a hungry horse (very budget restaurant in England) with him as he had a coupon for buy one meal get one free.He ordered two meals and ate them both 😂😂😂
Finally, Amie shared some advice for those of us who’d like to date without breaking the bank. “There are plenty of ideas to go out and still save money. Adjust your time to eat and drink during happy hours to get the best deals!” she recommends. “Get creative, find local museums or activities that have discounted entry days and pack a picnic to enjoy before hand. And, of course, fun outdoor activities tend to be free like hiking or enjoying the beach together.“If you’d like to gain even more dating tips, be sure to visit Amie the Dating Coach’s websiteright here!
Finally, Amie shared some advice for those of us who’d like to date without breaking the bank. “There are plenty of ideas to go out and still save money. Adjust your time to eat and drink during happy hours to get the best deals!” she recommends. “Get creative, find local museums or activities that have discounted entry days and pack a picnic to enjoy before hand. And, of course, fun outdoor activities tend to be free like hiking or enjoying the beach together.”
If you’d like to gain even more dating tips, be sure to visit Amie the Dating Coach’s websiteright here!
We spent hours one day on the slopes and when we finally left I was starving. I begged him to stop at a gas station so I could get something to eat but he refused as “we had food at home.” It was an hour and a half drive and I felt light headed the whole time. We got home and he proceeded to make this obnoxious dinner of salmon and poached apples that took 2 hours. I ate like 3 granola bars while hiding in the bathroom. Gee I hated him.
Once dated a guy who wasn’t exactly rich, but had more than your average person with a hefty inheritance. Early on into our relationship, he invited 6 of his friends over on Valentine’s Day (which was apparently his valentines gift to me: quality time with his friends) for a home cooked meal. At the end of the meal, he asked everyone for £10 a head. I couldn’t image ever inviting people over to my house and charging them to eat.
Well, it was mostly that he was frugal with me, but spent whatever he wanted on himself. We were married. My son and I got the cheapest of everything, asked if I truly needed items (like new shoes because mine were falling apart or my son had outgrown his) but had to have name brand everything for himself, just because he wanted it.
I’m a guy but I had a previous girlfriend tell me about one of her previous first dates with a guy and when she offered to pay he said “oh, in that case I’m getting a sandwich to take home too” and order ANOTHER meal to go.
He ate beans on toast for all 3 meals because “it’s healthy and you don’t need to spend loads on food”.I’m British so I’ll indulge in beans on toast happily, eagerly, but for 3 meals a day, every day of the week?? Nah mate. I ate it a lot in uni because I was a skint student. Now we’re in our 40s there’s no bloody need.
This was technically before we started dating, but one of my exes is so cheap we went on holiday once and she refused to spend money on public transportation so she made me walk like 50-60k steps every day for an entire week. I thought my feet were gonna fall off.
He believed that mattresses and cots were a waste of time and believed everyone should sleep on the floor.I noped out of that one pretty fast.
I bought my own ($300) engagement ring 🫠 I can’t remember if he every paid me back, but suffice it to say… we did not get married.
Instead of buying pads for her period, she’d ask me to steal diapers from the daycare I worked at to save money. Another time I came home, and there was a box of diapers. She got them from a diaper bank, claiming she was a mom. I even offered to buy her pads, tampons, or a Diva cup. She only wanted diapers.
They pulled out a calculator in a Taco Bell to split a meal that was under $20, down to the penny, and told me to venmo what I owe. He wasn’t POOR, had a full-time job while I was living on a student budget.
Three rooms, a light fitting in each, but only two lamp shades and one light bulb between them.Yes you guessed it, you either used your phone for light or had to transport the bulb to use the light for a 2am wee.
Instead of getting a hotel for the road-trip we were going on, he suggested we just sleep in his regular-sized car.I did not go on said road-trip after this suggestion.
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*During an interesting time in my life, I lived with a millionaire for a short while, and he was one of the most disturbingly cheap people I’ve ever met…**In all his extra spare time, he volunteered at a food bank… only to take home the food donated, so he wouldn’t have to buy groceries. He called himself frugaI.**I hated him. His cheapness led to his death.**I’m really going to have to write a book someday.*I can’t/don’t do cheapskate/frugal people.
Went for pizza with my ex bf (he was really cheap, too many stories), he “forgot” his wallet and after I paid he broke up with me lol
We split the bill (first date) after he stated he wanted to “treat” me to dinner. W/E thats fine… the bill comes and I leave my portion of the tip in cash. When he saw how much cash I put down as tip he took some of the cash he had put down back. Because he said I tipped too much (25% of my portion).Worst part was when I finished my meal I put my napkin on my plate after using it to wipe my mouth. He proceeded to remove the napkin and eat the piece of chicken and 3 bites of rice I had left.
We went up to bed on our first long holiday weekend together. It was February in Vermont. He debated leaving the heat on, and finally said “it’s costly, but I know you like to be warm.“Later in the weekend he threw his back out and I spent the rest of the the long weekend waking at 4-hour intervals round the clock to feed the woodstove so we wouldn’t freeze to death. I only did it because his 80 year old mother also lived there, and she was absolutely lovely. I didn’t want her to freeze, or I’d have packed my Mini and booked it.This weekend singlehandedly cured me of any interest in dating, and I have been happily single, ever since.
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We went to happy hour at Black Angus.He ordered 2 beers.I ordered an nachos appetizer and water.He requested check split in 1/2 even though he hate my food.I paid $4.35.Dumped him in the parking lot.
Dated an optometrist briefly. He lives with his parents so he doesn’t have much expense. He has a paid off car. I slept over once. I had a suitcase with me because I was visiting from another state. He wanted to take the public transit that required 2 transfers and a lot of walking rather than drive me back to my parents place, which would have taken an hour max. The public transit took over 2 hours. Broke up with him shortly after.
My ex was someone who lived insanely outside of his means. It was frugality in a weird way. For my 21st birthday, he surprised me with a trip to Vegas. We were the same age and I knew he couldn’t afford it, but he said he got a good deal and I figured his parents had helped him pay for it. I was working full time and paying for my own bills and rent, and he had told me everything was covered, so I didn’t budget much for the trip. Plus, I only got informed about it about a month before we left.Anyway, we get there on my birthday, and he automatically started a fight with me over not being able to pay for things. He told me I should have been smarter about my budgeting, and told me it was unreasonable to expect him to pick up dinner bills. I was shocked. Spent the whole trip crying in my Caesar’s hotel room while he gambled alone downstairs.
Dated this woman that was really frugal, I thought it was because she was in debt or didn’t get paid alot. Turns out it was because her parents controlled her bank account and monitored what she spent. This girl was making a little over 90k and wouldn’t spend anything because she was scared. So eventually we talked about moving in and finances and thats when she told me she couldn’t unless I paid for everything because her parents needed her income. I was blown away. Still saw her casually for a few months then I stopped.
They went well beyond frugal and into being a cheap money-hoarder. They absolutely refused to pay for anything even for themselves that wasn’t a dire and immediate need and begrudged every dollar they ever had to spend, so their entire life revolved around making and stashing money they weren’t willing to use to improve their life at all. It was like a hoarder but their hoarding obsession was money. They seemed like a fairly normal person when I met them as a friend of a friend other than making themselves scarce anytime it was ruined to pitch in money. We didn’t last more than a couple of dates because it was pretty quickly and clearly unhealthy and their relationship to money showed they were not mentally well.
Went out to dinner with my ex and my best friends. He asked to split a single entree, which I said no to. Then when the check came, he asked me to split it. Also dated another guy in the past that made me pay for my birthday dinner and his meal…. I’ve dating some losers lol
My ex grew up super poor so he never wanted to spend money on anything. It was always really hard to plan dates that did not cost anything. Anyways the worst is when we moved in together, he did not want to invest in good cleaning supplies, vacuums, or like a f*****g broom. Cleaning was so difficult it was awful. Grocery shopping took hours because we had to calculate the best price for each item. I don’t think I could ever date someone with money trauma again… and I still hate grocery stores.
His car got towed because he refused to pay for parking.
lost so much weight with him because he couldn’t shell out extra money for better home cooked meals or eating out so we’d have grilled cheese or small soups as a whole MEAL. i could afford better food but he was so stingy it was either i eat good and he eat like s**t and be annoyed/upset we weren’t eating the same stuff or we both eat s****y.
I recently dated a millionaire that was so cheap I had to eat off his plate, he wouldn’t let me order my own meal.
My bf is kind of frugal. Like he won’t let me buy Ben & Jerry’s because it’s expensive for the amount but he will drop 400 on booze for us. Lol. Odd
After eating dinner, he proudly told me he’d gotten the tomato’s from dumpster diving 🤮
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