Sometimes, there are times in life when people must pull themselves away from theirfriendswho once were very close to them. For example, so close that theygavethem a kidney. What a sign of friendship, isn’t it?Well, sometimes, even these friendships, like the one from today’s story, start todecaywhen people arejusttoo different to getalongdue to different worldviews. Yes, you might have a kidney gifted from that person, but what if they are very hateful towards your significant other due to their gender expression?
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How should you react when your close friend very clearly dislikes your significant other who is transgender?
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A woman’s friend, who once gave her a kidney, didn’t invite the woman’s transgender significant other to her wedding, claiming it was a mistake
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So, the woman decided to skip the wedding, as she didn’t want to attend a celebration her significant other was notwelcome at
Thepost’sauthor has afriendshe met incollege,anddespite their different worldviews, they were close. In fact, they were so close that at onepoint,the friend gave one of her kidneys to the OP.
Recently, the friend got engaged and started planning herwedding. The trouble began when the original poster noticed that her significant other, who is transgender,wasn’tincluded. So, she called the friend,hopingit was a mistake,onlyto learn that she forgot to put him on a guest list, but she still hoped that OP could make it.
But the author knew itwasn’ta simple oversight. So, she tried to explain how important it would be for hersignificant otherto attend the celebration, but the friend kept lying.In the end, the womandecidedto skip theweddingsince shecouldn’tgo with her boyfriend.
Thisleft their mutual friends divided– some thoughtshe waswrong for making it aboutpolitics, while others praised her for standing up for her relationship.So, to find out what side is possiblyright, she took to Reddit.
Most of the people told her that her choice was right. Standing up for her transgender significant otherwasn’ta political move, but her friend not inviting him was. So, quite a few netizens wondered why the womanwas so seton being friends with someonewho’squite openly transphobic.
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After all, a person doesn’t have to shout slurs out loud to be transphobic. Transphobia has manywaysof showing up, from microaggression to straight-up violence:
So, the friend, as far as we know, doesn’t call the OP’s SO slurs straight to their face (who knows what she does behind their back). Yet, the woman revealed that they had argued about gender, and her friend had revealed her, let’s just say it, backward views. And, well, her not inviting the author’s significant other to her wedding was more than telling.
Sadly, transphobia very negativelyaffectstrans people. It not only causes them physical harm, but it also causes these people to suffer from various mental illnesses — anxiety, depression, and many others.
So, we can agree that the post’s author standing up for the person she loves and her friend apparently hates was definitely the right move. But it is sad that the person, who once gave her kidney, is now pulling away as she can’t understand that person’sgenderidentity.
While not everyone in the woman’s life agreed with her decision, most of the people online seemed to think it was the right choice
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