Many people areinsecure about their looks. They might not like how their bodies look, or they might just be unhappy with a feature or two, like their nose or legs.Surveys showthat 20% of adults feel ashamed of their bodies. Although other people might not even see it, we can always find something we don’t like about ourselves.
Forthis person, it was his body hair. Because he opted to regularly shave it, he usually took a long time in the shower. His GF grew suspicious of what he might be doing in there, so she decided to pick the bathroom lock and see. Panic and shouting ensued, and after a fight, the guy was confused about whether his reaction to thisinvasion of privacywas appropriate or if his GF was right to get mad.
We reached out to the Founder of Man For Himself, Robin James. He is an expert on male grooming, hair, and fragrance, and he has kindly agreed to tellBored Pandamore about the reasons why some men choose to shave and how important privacy is for these kinds of things.
We also asked ResearcherMichael Kehlerto weigh in on the broader topic of men’s body image issues. Kehler is an associate professor at the Faculty of Education at theUniversity of Calgaryand a researcher in Masculinities. He told us more about the psychological impact of body hair on men and why awareness about men’s body image issues is so important.
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A guy found himself in a relationship dilemma because his showers took too long
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After his GF violated his privacy, he decided to ask people whether his reaction was inappropriate
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A researcher in the field of Masculinities, Michael Kehler, tells Bored Panda that men have been paying increasingly more attention to their body hair and grooming habits with the rise of men’s care products. “With a shift in attitudes linking men’s appearance and grooming tohomophobic discourses, there has been a greater openness and public acceptance.”
“From lumbersexuals to spornosexuals and metrosexuals, the attention [on] how men actively intentionally architect masculinity has received increased public acceptance.” Kehler says that beauty and hair products for men have become mainstream. The same goes for shaving tools, whether they’re for facial, chest, or pubic hair. If only swimmers and athletes removed their body hair back in the day, today, it’s been increasingly normalized.
“Digitally mediatedmale bodiesand online dating apps reveal a growing trend among men to purposefully and intentionally pose and sculpt the body to express and project various forms of masculinity,” Kehler explains. “While men have historically appeared aloof to appearance concerns, shifting attitudes and a more public invitation to gaze upon men’s bodies has provided a greater license for men to invest in their own bodily appearances.”
“Ironically, male body hair was once connected to manliness and outward evidence of reaching puberty,” he adds. “Facial hair, including mustaches and beards, were seen as early signs of puberty. In the current climate, we are witnessing more men engaging in what is referred to as ‘manscaping.’ The art of shaping, defining, and carefully trimming and sculpting men’s hair is a growing appearance industry.”
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People’s understanding of masculinity is becoming more fluid
Researcher Michael Kehler says that a fixed idea of how a man should look still persists in society. “Men’s bodies remain emblematic of masculinity in its most rigid and limited forms. Musculature, virility, and strength remain deeply connected to manliness and messages of dominance and power and highly valorized manhood.”
“Gazing upon men’s bodies has only emerged as particular fashion designers have created [a] public license for men to look upon their own bodies,” the researcher notes. Because of the restrictive model of masculinity, people have found a way to express it in more gender-fluid ways.
“The increased awareness and public engagement with men around specific health concerns such as mental health and suicide, for example, has allowed for greater openness that has historically been limited due to stereotypes of stoicism that left numerous men’s health issues largely unspoken,” Kehler points out.
Some men shave for athletic reasons, some for hygienic reasons, and for others, it’s a styling choice
Robin James, male grooming industry expert, tells us that grooming is a personal journey. “There is no one-size-fits-all approach, and what works for one person might not work for another. It’s important for men to experiment and find what makes them feel most confident and comfortable.”
If a man chooses to shave his body hair, the reasons can be various. “Some do it for athletic purposes—swimmers and cyclists, for instance, shave to reduce drag and enhance performance,” James tells Bored Panda.
“Others might do it for aesthetic reasons, preferring the clean, smooth look that aligns with their personal style.”
Robin says that shaving the hair off increases body definition, so shaving to enhance the appearance of muscles is also a thing.
The third possible reason is simple cleanliness. “There are also those who find it more comfortable or hygienic, especially in warmer climates or for those with particularly thick body hair,” Robin points out. “It’s all about personal preference and comfort.”
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A loving partner would support their loved one’s grooming decisions
Nobody likes it when other people are picking on their insecurities. We’re self-conscious about our perceived flaws as is, so when someone doesn’t respect our privacy, it hurts our ego even more. “Privacy in personal grooming is important, especially for men who might feel self-conscious about their body,” James says.
“Creating a safe and private environment allows men to explore and establish their grooming routines without judgment. It’s important for men to feel comfortable and confident in their own skin, and privacy can provide the necessary space for this,” the grooming expert says.
“Explain that grooming is a personal choice that helps you feel your best. Mutual respect is key in any relationship, and your partner should understand and support your grooming decisions just as you would support theirs. If your partner can’t get on board with your personal choices, it could be that they’re not the right person for you!”
Manscaping is a personal choice; some choose to do it, and others don’t. There’s no shame in doing it orletting your hair grow outnaturally. “Remember, grooming should be about enhancing your own sense of well-being and confidence, not about adhering to external pressures orstandards,” Robin James emphasizes.
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Many people thought the girlfriend’s behavior was beyond strange
Others thought that both parties needed to grow up and that they were both at fault
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