As a dad of 3, I can say with confidence thatparenthoodis a lot of incredibly happy and joyful moments that you want to experience again and again. But at the same time, this is also a complete, total change in your entire life for many, many years…
And I can also say that no matter how involved I am as a dad (a decent one, I sincerely believe) in bringing up my kids, the burden that falls on the mother is still way more difficult. And so, theuser BendyGirl85, the author of our story today, also faced a similar experience after giving birth to her first child.
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The author of the post is a new mom who recently delivered her first child – a daughter
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The woman says that she never wanted kids herself but changed her mind under her husband’s influence
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The woman wonders if these thoughts and feelings are valid and just seeks support and advice online
So, the Original Poster (OP) is a new mom, who quite sincerely admits that she loves her daughter very much – but still deeply misses the carefree life that she and her husband had before her birth. Yes, that’s right – the woman partly regrets that she allowed her husband to talk her into having a child.
According to the author, she never wanted to have kids – however, she changed her mind under the influence of her spouse. He always dreamed of becoming a dad – and his influence gradually changed his wife’s viewpoint. And now, a little over a year later, his dream came true, and his wife… “Guess whose life changed andwhose didn’t?” the author asks a rhetorical question.
The woman assures readers that this is notpostpartum depression, but simply the difficult process of getting used to a new life role – but she didn’t suspect that this process would be as difficult and somehow painful for her as it is…
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“To be honest, if I were this mom, I’d still go to the doctor for a checkup, because, it seems to me, some elements of postpartum depression are still present here. And, of course, the support of her husband and other relatives should play a very important role here,” says Irina Matveeva, apsychologistand certified NLP specialist, whomBored Pandaasked for a comment here. “Especially if the man was really such a great enthusiast of parenthood. After all, any child is a big responsibility. And this responsibility must be divided equally.”
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