Cheating can completely turn a relationship upside down. It’s scary to imagine, but around 16% of married couples admit to having anaffairat some point. The infidelity can change everything and bring to light some serious issues in themarriagethat both partners could never imagine.
A woman found herself in the same position when she gotpregnant. She was just going to reveal it to her fiancé when he admitted to cheating. The news was so devastating that she had to make one of the hardest decisions about her pregnancy.
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Fiancée who got cheated on decided to end her pregnancy instead of struggling as a single mom and having to manage joint custody with the ex who broke her heart
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The woman and her BF were high school sweethearts who had been together for 7 years, one day he brought his mistress to their house and said they had been having an affair for a year
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The heartbroken poster, who was pregnant, revealed that after he admitted to cheating, she realized that she did not want to co-parent or be a single mom
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A few days later, she terminated the pregnancy and let him know about it, but he was enraged since he had always wanted kids, and his mean words made her feel like a jerk
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The grief-stricken poster was vulnerable enough to share what was probably one of the most difficult situations of her life. She revealed that she and her fiancé had been together for 7 years. During theirrelationship, he had been cheating with another woman for over a year. He even had the audacity to bring his mistress to their house and break the news to the poster.
Bored Pandareached out to the post’s author,u/Gummytoeswithcream,to understand how she was coping with the decision. She said, “I do not think I will regret it. It’s been around a month, and I don’t really miss the potential child. Maybe I will regret it in the future, but it just doesn’t seem that as of now.I have been feeling pretty neutral, like truthfully I just feel like everything said and done has not happened.”
She added, “I feel like everything has happened really fast, and I’m not realizing why I am not crying or angry or anything. I’m just doing what I do. Wake up, breakfast, brush my teeth, shower, get ready for work, lunch break, leave work, go home, dinner, shower, then sleep.”
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We asked the author if her ex had contacted her and what he had to say. She said: “In short, he emailed me, he nitpicked my looks and the form of my chest and behind size, and he went on about if I did not have [a pregnancy termination], he would have considered dating me again or even getting married.”
Despite the man’s reaction and some mean words from commenters, the woman was firm with her choice.Researchfound that women who went through with the termination of pregnancy experienced less anxiety than those who were denied the option. Anothersurveyshowed that of 226 women who ended their pregnancy, 33% who wanted to do it experienced positive mental health gains after it happened. Of the remaining women, 60% said they would have preferred to give birth if they had more support from the people in their lives.
It’s nobody else’s place to tell the woman what she should or shouldn’t have done. Though the situation was extremely complicated, the man had no right to getangrywith her because he had been having an affair. The woman said she would share an update on her situation after a while. We hope she’s in a better mental space now.
Do you agree with how the poster handled the situation? What are your thoughts?
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