People witheczemahave to steer clear of anything that might cause a flare-up. To do so, first, they need to learn what causes it and then figure out a way to avoid it. And yet, even if you’re doing your best yourself, it doesn’t mean that people in your life will want to adhere to these rules.
Like in this story, where the woman’s eczema worsens due to soft water, so at her home, she has the softener turned off. Then, one day her husband turned it on to see if the flare-up was “in her head,” which led her to develop trust issues that started slowly ruining her marriage.
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A woman’s eczema always gets worse when she showers with soft water, so she turned the softener at her home off
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One day, she noticed it was turned back on, which was her husband’s doing–he wanted to test her to see if the flare-ups were only “in her head”
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She asked him to never do it again, but then 6 months later it was turned back on, even though the husband denied doing it
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Still, her gut told her it was most likely him, so she asked online whether people there thought this relationship situation was as bad as it seemed
For about 10 years, the OP has been among the 1 out of 10peoplewho struggle witheczema– a skin condition that causes dry and itchy patches on the skin.
So, she had the water softener turned off. Then, around 6 months ago she started noticing her skin flaring up again. Apparently, herhusbandhad turned the water softener back on. His reasoning for doing that was that he liked soft water better and wanted to check if maybe her skin flare-ups were only “in her head.”
This infuriated the woman. It was definitely not only in her head – her skin had visible flare-ups to prove it. She asked her husband not to ever turn on the water softener again, which he agreed to.
Then, around 6 months later, she was showering when she felt the soapy feeling that comes with soft water. Thereasonwhy this feeling occurs is because softeners exchange calcium and magnesium minerals with sodium and salt ions, which changes the water’s texture.
Again, the OP’s water softener was turned on, but this time the husband denied doing it. The only other person besides her husband who could have turned it on was his dad, who loves to meddle and has ahistoryof doing similar things.
Still, her gut told her it was her husband, which is a terrifying thought. Why would her husband, who knows that her flare-ups cause her pain and discomfort, do it?
She told her husband if he turned on the machine ever again, she would be filing for divorce, as he was deliberately putting her health at risk. After all,severeeczema flare-ups can lead to relentless itching, extreme skin inflammation, bleeding, and even infection.
Besides doing all of this, the woman also asked Redditors just howredthey’d consider this flag of her husband’s to be. In fact, she even checked whether they would consider this to be emotional or physical abuse, even though there is no history of that.
Well, people on the platform thought the flag was very red. For some, it was so red that they said that considering divorce or at leasttherapyshould be on the table – testing someone’shealthis borderline criminal.
Yes, there is still a chance that it wasn’t him who turned on the softener the second time around, so some peeps suggested that the woman should either put a camera next to the machine or simply cut its cord.
Well, if he really did turn on the machine the second time and didn’t confess, that’s full-on jerk behavior, which needs to be addressed. Only the question is how to prove whether he actually did it.
In their eyes, it was a terrible situation and they advised her to consider couples therapy or even divorce
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