Planning a trip with a friend is always exciting, but it doesn’t come without risks. Just like moving in with a loved one, it’s impossible to know what exactly their living and traveling habits are like until you experience them first hand. And sometimes, to avoid ruining the relationship altogether, the most mature choice is deciding that traveling with one another isn’t wise.
But after one woman tried to explain that to a childhood friend, she found herself being accused of displaying ableist behavior. Below, you’ll find the full story that was recentlysharedon Reddit, as well as some of the replies invested readers left.
After taking a trip with a childhood friend, this woman decided it would be best if that was their last vacation together
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But her friend didn’t seem to understand, and instead accused her of discrimination
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Traveling can be challenging for anyone, especially for those who live with a disability
Traveling can be stressful for anyone, but for the1.3 billion peopleon the planet who live with a disability, it can be even more difficult. Unfortunately, the government and businesses don’t always make travels simpler for disabled individuals,The Points Guyreports. 72% of adults with disabilities say they’ve experienced major obstacles with airlines, and 65% report having issues with airports in general.
In this particular story, the woman noted that her friend has fibromyalgia. According to theNational Institute of Arthritis and Musculoskeletal and Skin Diseases, fibromyalgia is a “chronic (long-lasting) disorder that causes pain and tenderness throughout the body, as well as fatigue and trouble sleeping.” So there’s no question that the increased walking many of us do while traveling can take a toll on someone with fibromyalgia much more quickly than it will on someone who doesn’t have a disability.
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But there are ways to plan ahead and minimize pain when on vacation
However, there are ways to prepare for trips to ensure that fibromyalgia doesn’t get in the way of having a great time.PassportHealthrecommends planning ahead, wearing comfortable clothes, getting extra sleep and making sure that individuals just don’t stop moving to minimize fibromyalgia symptoms while traveling. Anticipate your needs, such as any medication and heating/cooling products you need to bring, and start your journey well rested.
The Fibro Clinicreiterates on their site that keeping active can be an important way to mitigate pain. They recommend doing daily stretches and/or light exercises to keep your body loose, and scheduling in rest periods when necessary. This might mean stopping for a coffee break and a gentle stretch or stopping for a healthy snack to ensure your energy levels don’t get too low. It’s also wise to plan comfortable transport. You may prefer bus over train or vice versa, so don’t forget to look up your journey ahead of time.
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Even if someone is your best friend, they might not be the best travel companion
While the woman who shared this story is sympathetic to her friend’s physical needs, the real problem she had with their travels had nothing to do with her disability. Sometimes, we learn that we’re just not travel-compatible with friends, and that’s okay. If one person wants to spend all day in museums and buy cheap meals at the grocery store, while the other would rather walk around the city then spend their whole budget on nice restaurants, it might be challenging to plan out the entire trip.
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Readers assured the woman that she had done nothing wrong, noting that the issue was not her friend’s disability
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