A newborn in the family is always a big deal and typically extendedrelativesshow interest and care about it. However, sometimes relatives can be inconsiderate and underestimate the hardships for the new mom, as it takes time to recover.
Today’s story covers how a woman’s grandparents dismissed her needs and instead focused on theirholiday, expecting the woman to entertain them.
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Extended family is important, but shouldn’t be the focus once a newborn is brought into the world
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A soon-to-be mom recently approached the Mumsnet online community to see if she was being unreasonable
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Her extended family plans to visit her and the newborn, and that’s good, but the grandparents think of it more as a holiday
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This stresses the woman out, as she’s unsure if she’ll be fit to go sightseeing with the grandparents just a couple of days after labor
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She needed advice from people online to see if she was reasonable for telling the grandparents that she probably wouldn’t be ready to entertain them and that it’s their concern
That’s all nice and good, however, one side of her grandparents has never visited her, as she lives quite far away. So for them, visiting the granddaughter and the newborn is not only about them, but also, they think of it as a holiday. Nothing weird so far, right?
What’s interesting about them thinking of their trip as a holiday is that the grandparents expect the OP (Original Poster) to entertain them throughout their stay there, despite her being just a couple of days out oflabor. It’s alright for them to think that way, but they should organize theirentertainmentthemselves, and not their exhausted granddaughter.
Naturally, the woman pushed back on this, but they seemed to ignore her remarks and kept saying how nice it was going to be and the places she was going to show them. It was stressing the woman out, so she took her feelings to the internet to see if being stern with the grandparents on this would be reasonable.
Netizens overwhelmingly supported her, with 97% of those 1000 people who voted saying that she wasn’t being unreasonable at all. Not shocking, given that everyone is aware of how difficult bringing new life into theworldis, and that the mother needs to rest afterward, and not just for a few days.
According to postpartum research, women feel mostly recovered after 6-8 weeks aftergivingbirth, but it might take longer than this “to feel like yourself again”. The upcoming months after giving birth can be brutal for women, as not only the body needs to heal, but postpartummental healthissues are common.
Postpartumcan commonly be brutal, as its complications canrangefrom headaches to serious infections and even strokes. Therefore, letting the woman rest after childbirth should be the obvious choice here, as it’s not a light matter. Overall, it truly looks evident that the woman isn’t being unreasonable at all, and on top of that, she will explain this to the grandparents. They’re welcome to visit, but being entertained is their own business.
Netizens support the woman, 97% of those who voted say that she’s not being unreasonable at all
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