Being with your friends or family members on their specialoccasionsis important – of course, if they invite you and you know that it’s what they want. Unfortunately, sometimes, these important days may overlap and you might be forced to do one of the hardest jobs – choose which one to attend.
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She then contacted her sister informing her that she would not be attending as she had already made plans, but she just got scolded for being selfish and not prioritizing family
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“Boundaries are our way of communicating ‘this is what is okay for me and this is what isn’t okay for me – please respect that’. And that is a vital part of a healthy relationship: respecting each other,” sharedSarah Siegert, expat friendship coach, withBored Panda. “We need to have and communicate boundaries so that others even know what and how to respect us.”
She also added that if we don’t know what our boundaries are and/or communicate them with friends and family, we leave the other person in the dark about what we want them to do and not do. “It’s our responsibility to know what is and isn’t acceptable to us and to let the other person know.”
Now, speaking about birthdays and potential emotional impact when loved ones forget them, Sarah emphasized that it actually depends on what every one of us think about it. “For some people it might lead to feelingsad, disappointed, unimportant. Thinking that family and friends don’t care about them, that they are not worthy of anyone’s love and attention, that they don’t matter,” she noted. “For other people it might not be a big problem. They might be a bit annoyed and then accept it without feeling any negative emotions whatsoever.”
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Finally, Sarah shared 3 pieces of advice on what to do when you have to choose between attending a family or friend’s event and celebrating your own special occasion.
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