Finding daycare for a newborn is challenging. It’s expensive and not every place that is available is suitable. So it’s not a surprise that it’s quite common for close friends and immediate family to help parents with their newborns, as it’s probably more reliable and cheaper. However, sometimes it’s important to agree clearly about the payment even when your own parents agree to help in order to avoid any misunderstandings in the future.
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Mom was thrilled about that and assured them they don’t have to pay her at all, as spending time with her grandchild is the most important
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The community members awarded the woman with the ‘Not the A-hole’ badge and agreed that her mom did a bait and switch. “She’s been insisting on not being paid for a year and now this? Talk about a bait and switch. Also, she’s not ‘elderly’!” one user wrote. “Bait and switch isn’t a harsh enough term for this. She manipulated her daughter to get grandkids. I would find alternate childcare personally,” another added.
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Moreover,Bored Pandagot in touch with Adrienne Bradley, who is a founder and CEO ofThriving Childcare. She kindly agreed to share key considerations when deciding whether to pay family members for childcare services, shared advice for payment discussions and what alternative ways parents can express gratitude if family members refuse to be paid.
“First off, kudos to the mom-to-be for setting clear expectations from the get-go. It’s crucial for both parties involved to be on the same page when it comes to childcare arrangements,” Adrienne emphasizes. “I totally get that life happens, plans evolve, but it’s also about keeping commitments.”
“While it’s heartwarming that some family members may offer to help out for free, it’s essential to recognize and compensate for the significant effort and time they’re putting in.”
Now, speaking about discussions about payment, Adrienne noted that communication is key. “Parents and family members need to have an open and honest conversation about expectations, boundaries, and, of course, compensation. It’s not just about the money; it’s about avoiding misunderstandings and ensuring that everyone feels appreciated and respected.”
Finally, in cases where family members refuse compensation, expressing gratitude is key. The founder adds that it could be through thoughtful gestures like preparing meals, running errands, or simply spending quality time together. “The goal is to make sure the caregiving arrangement feels like a fair exchange of support, even if it’s not financial.”
Adrienne emphasizes that she advises parents to tread carefully when mixing family and business, especially in childcare. “While it can work out beautifully, maintaining clear boundaries helps avoid misunderstandings and ensures that relationships stay strong.”
Redditors had a discussion with the author about this situation, and most of them pointed out that 49 Y.O. is not elderly
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