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How should you react when you’re banned from your family member’s wedding, which you helped plan?
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The woman helped her cousin plan a wedding, in which the cousin will marry the woman’s ex, but she soon learned that she was not invited to the celebration
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She asked for the money she had invested back, but when the cousin didn’t return it, she told everyone that the cousin’s husband was her ex, sparking family drama
The OP’s cousin was organizing aweddingwith her boyfriend of 2 years. It all would be just a common situation if it weren’t for this single thing — the post’s author and cousin’s husband dated for 2 years back in the day. Thankfully, they broke up on good terms, so there isn’t any bad blood between them, which worked out great for OP’scousinwhen she started going out with him.
Well, at least OP thought that her cousin didn’t have any problems with this situation. Granted, she was kind of wrong. Only 2 days before their wedding, the woman learned that she was not invited, as her cousin felt uncomfortable that she was once in love with her husband-to-be. She also worried that the OP was planning to steal him.
That hurt the post’s author, as it was untrue. She wasn’t in love with her cousin’s husband and didn’t have any ulterior motives related to him. Also, she spent quite a bit of time and money on the wedding’s planning. So, it’s no surprise she asked for hermoneyback.
Yet, the cousin refused to give it back, so the OP posted the truth about why she was not invited to that wedding on herInstagram. This caused many family members to be angry with the cousin and the cousin to be angry with the post’s author.
That’s why the OP went to Reddit to ask whether she was the jerk for telling everyone the truth. Quite a few people said that her actions were justified. Some blamed the cousin for creating false narratives to justify not wanting the OP in the wedding, while others called her a jerk for not returning the money.
At the same time, there were some people who said that everyone was a jerk in the situation. The cousin for the reasons other people pointed out, the husband for not clearing out the air, and the post’s author for saying that she “let” her cousin date herex, implying that she owned him.
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So, you might wonder — should you or your significant other invite exes to the wedding? For example, maybe the relationship ended on good terms with falling out of love, and you’re simply friends now. Well, there areseveralthings to consider in this case, as there’s no definitive answer. Each situation is different.
Another thing to consider is the breakup’s freshness. If the relationship ended relatively recently, it’s possible that the ex might have some feelings, which can cause some trouble, not only for them but also for you.Also, if the relationship was very serious, it might be weird to have that person in the ceremony where you’re marrying someone else. But if it was some unserious shortsituationship, it’s a whole different story.
Overall, as we said — every situation is different. It all comes down to figuring out how you and your significant other feel.
Some people online justified the woman telling everyone the truth, while others called every person involved a jerk
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