Don’t you sometimes feel like not doing anything at all? Like,absolutely nothing at all. Everything that life often throws at you leads to this particular blend of burnout that you can’t escape. Why? Because life continues and so all of your commitments don’t magically go away.
Like today’s story, where a wife becomes a stay-at-home mom for 2 years and slowly, but surely, loses all reason to be one, though she wants that status to stay with her. The husband, however, disagrees.
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Every relationship has a bump in the road now and then. Some are mild, but others are like when you have a wife who justcan’t anymore
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A husband recently turned to the internet for some perspective on not letting his wife be a stay-at-home mom now that there are no motherly duties to do per se
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As it turned out, the wife just wanted to be a “stay-at-home” without the “mom” part, not even pitching in with the chores now that their kid is in daycare
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The story goes that Redditor u/Puzzleheaded-Kale987, a family man and dad to his lovely 2-year-old, recently had a bit of a row with his wife over her wanting to continue to be a stay-at-home-mom.
You see, for two years, the wife’s full-time (even more, I’d wager) job was to be a mother. However, now that a significant period of time has passed, the husband felt that it was time to start thinking of what’s next. What ended upbeing nextwas daycare for the little one.
Luckily, the guy’s job covered daycare, it was right next to his workplace, the kid loved it—it would’ve been a crime not to take the deal at this point. Besides, kids benefit from all the socializing they can get. However, the wife thought she’d be able to continue being a stay-at-home mom despite the kid being away from the house all day.
In turn, the husband, coming from a family background ofeveryone gets to play, explained that she can be a stay-at-home mom if she would at least do her part of the chores or otherwise contribute, but that wasn’t happening. As for the coworker argument, he explained that it’s not as clear-cut as it seems because they all have cheating relationships and so certain boundaries aren’t pushed.
It is important to note that he did not suggest that he’d be allowed to go about cheating in exchange for the wife being allowed to be a stay-at-home mom. “It was just […] not the life she thinks it is,” concluded OP.
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A lot of folks were asking for more information on the topic before they made a judgment, which in the end was an NTA from the majority.
Most of these were answered in further edits to the post, like the fact that the Mrs. was fully on board with the daycare, that she was a software engineer, and that she would always respond with “I’m fine” when asked about her mental health, as some folks were worried about those aspects.
Most others were pointing out the obvious, and that is that the wife just doesn’t want to do anything any more. Alas, that is not how life works, and there is a lot to be had from a second source of income, so it’s ludicrous not to do it. Though, there is nuance, nobody’s gonna argue with that. That mental health thing is one bit.
Another stay-at-home mom noted that as soon as her kids are old enough, she will go back to work as there is simply no reason to be at home when the kids are out of the house. Besides that, the second income is way better for the family.
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Home As We Make Itrana bit of researchto determine the true struggles of stay-at-home moms. Of the 400 participants, self-care was the biggest struggle most experienced, clocking in at 18% of all moms. These include not being able to tend to their own food or exercise needs, but also not being able to fully enjoy a day out shopping and the like.
And then we get to the hard-hitting topics of social isolation and mental health. 62 (15.5%) and 48 (12%) women respectively expressed these two concerns. Socializing outside of the household becomes difficult as a lot of the time-planning revolves around the kid’s schedule, to which most functioning folk in society can’t cater. And even the partner can’t always fill that void because they are already holding the front somewhere else.
Besides that, stay-at-home-moms can’t really find new friends that easily, save for other parents at the park while the kids play. But even keeping those relationships up can be near impossible because there’s now two kids’ schedules to contend with. It is a certain kind of vicious cycle that stops folks from being able to socialize freely, and that is taxing on humans as we are social beings.
Many had questions, but once those questions were answered, many had a verdict, and that verdict was that the dad was not at fault
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