Trust is the foundation of any relationship, but what happens when it’s put on the line in the name of a joke? In today’s post from the subredditr/AITAH, a man recounts how his girlfriend’s elaborate “prank” with a mutual friend of theirs jeopardized everything they had built in two years. The woman said she was just playing around, but the guy’s definition of fun doesn’t include coming home to his partner straddling someone else in their bedroom.
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Pranks often walk the line between harmless fun and hurt feelings
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Or in this case, causing a breakup
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After his story went viral, the man posted an update
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Betrayal instantly destroys safety and trust in a relationship
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Sometimes you can’t know for sure if you’re partner is cheating or not, so we asked marriage and family therapist Dr. Talal H. Alsaleem, PsyD, LMFT, also known asthe Father of Modern Infidelity Counseling, about the most common signs to look out for. Of course, every situation is different, but Dr. Talal toldBored Pandathere are three that stick out:
#1 Over protection of privacy and access to digital interactions
“Secrecy is one the most common elements of infidelity,” he explained to us, adding that it manifests in a variety of ways, including:
#2 Engaging in selfish behaviors
“When you don’t feel close to someone, you are less inclined to think and or care about their needs and desires, because you feel that they don’t care about yours,” Dr. Talal said.
#3 Superficial conversations
According to the therapist, a lack of intimacy breeds lack of trust and a decrease in vulnerability. As a result, “you are less likely to have a deep, soulful conversation with your partner about your hopes, dreams, and the things that bother you.”
#4 Living Separate lives
According to scientificresearchconducted on couples in Britain and published in the journal PLOS-ONE, the top reasons why couples break up are:
Most of those who read what happened said the man did nothing wrong
However, a few saw the situation differently
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