Picking a name for your unborn child is an incredibly important and responsible process, and I personally know a couple who argued so bitterly over the name of their future kid that they almost ended up getting divorced before they even became parents. Yes, the choice should be mutual – because otherwisevarious nuancesare possible…
The author of our story today, theuser u/Elegant-Draft-7724, was lucky – she and her husband always had unanimity on the name for their unborn child. There was no luck with another – it took the woman many years of fruitless attempts to finally get pregnant. And when this happened, her younger sister framed her…
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The author of the post has a younger sister who is at the moment pregnant with her third kid
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At the same time it took the author many years to finally get pregnant using IVF
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Many years ago, the author and her spouse had picked boy and a girl names for their future kids
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However, it turned out that the younger sister used these names for her first two children
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So when it came time for naming once more, the author refused to disclose it to her sister, and got called out
So, the Original Poster (OP) is 38 years old, and her sister is two years younger. And it so happened that the sisters now simultaneouslybecame pregnant– although for the youngest one, this pregnancy was the third, and for the author – the first and incredibly coveted. She and her husband spent many years trying to conceive a child – and had almost lost faith in success, until finallyIVFhad its effect.
Even at the beginning of theirlife together, the couple agreed to choose two names in case they had a girl or a boy – and this choice was unanimous. A couple of years later, when the OP’s sister had her first kid, a girl, she couldn’t agree on a name with her spouse – so she used her sister’s “girl pick.”
A few years later, the younger sister gave birth to a boy – and history repeated itself, but this time the boy’s name was involved. The younger sister sincerely admitted that she no longer believed in the possibility of the OP getting pregnant, so she believed that the name would “stayin the family” in any case.
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“I don’t think this woman is doing anything wrong. On the one hand, choosing a name is a personal matter for each parent and no one objects to children being namesakes. On the other hand, the circumstances under which her sister gave names to her kids make this case specific,” says Irina Matveeva, apsychologistand certified NLP specialist, whomBored Pandaasked for a comment here. “And the fact that this mother seemed to be seriously counting on her older sister’s infertility also doesn’t speak in her favor.”
“In such cases, when after many attempts you still manage to get pregnant, many women are very sensitive to their child, both before and after their birth – so it’s not surprising that this mom-to-be chose to keep the name a secret, just in case. In the end, it’s a personal matter for her sister and her husband to come to a common opinion or show their imagination themselves, without relying on someone else’s idea,” Irina concludes.
Some commenters under the original post also suspected that the OP’s sister wanted to use “hercreativework” for the third time. “Not her business and I wouldn’t be surprised if she wants to use the name for her kid (or something similar),” one person commented. “My husband and I talked about that possibility or it’s her way of making sure I don’t use the names we picked out years ago,” the author replied.
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