Losing someone you love can be painful because this person was a huge part of your life, so it’s only natural to grieve and mourn the loss. The thing is, there are some people who don’t understand thatgriefis not something that goes away quickly, and healing can take as long as it takes.
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The poster’s husband used to leave her love notes on the mirror and the counter in dry-erase marker, and it’s been 3 years since he passed away, so she had taped them
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The poster was immensely hurt and felt that the woman had done it intentionally so she didn’t feel like asking her to return
In today’s tragic story, Reddit userVisible-Document-225tells us how she lost the precious love notes that her late husband had left her. She lost her husband about 3 years ago, but she still had the love notes that they used to write for each other. It sounds like such a sweet gesture and just shows how the romance between them was still alive.
Now, fast forward to a year later, the sitter removed the tape and wiped away the notes, stating that she was trying to help clean up and thought that the kids had done it. Oh, how devastating it must have been for OP! I mean, the note said, “forever my girl”; why would the kids write that? Also, the tape itself was a barrier to stop her from doing it.
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Redditors felt that she was just one of those people who felt that 3 years was enough time to grieve and decided to take matters into her own hands. She probably felt that she was “helping” OP “move on” from her pain, and frankly, it sounds quite horrendous what she did.
To understand more about grief,Bored Pandareached out toEden Lobo—a counselor and psychology professor—for an interview. She said that letting go of physical reminders of a loved one can be a deeply personal and complex decision, and there’s no set timeline for when, or even if, it’s necessary to do so.
“It can be healthy to part with these items when a person feels ready, but this readiness often comes from internal shifts in their grieving process and emotional healing. However, it’s equally important to note that some people may never feel the need to let go of these reminders, and that’s okay too. For many, keeping a special item can continue to bring comfort throughout their lives without impeding healing,” she added.
“In the grieving process, such reminders can provide comfort and a sense of closeness, helping to keep the memory of the loved one alive in a concrete way. These objects, whether it’s a note, a piece of clothing, or a personal belonging, hold emotional significance, representing not just the person, but the relationship and the moments shared,” she narrated.
Folks online claimed that the sitter had deliberately done it and she sounded like one of those people who had no idea that healing takes time
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