We’ve all experienced having a so-called “friend” who never added value to our lives. Their negativity and toxicity brought the room down. They gossiped too much oracted entitled, which made us question whethercutting tiesmight be better.

Inthis story, a woman completelyneglectedher friend’s birthday but went on to demand an extravagant celebration for her own birthday. She even required a hefty amount of money for her gifts and meals.

Her behavior has since caused some tension in their friendship. Scroll down for the entire text.

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A woman repeatedly neglected her friend’s birthday, but expected an extravagant celebration for hers

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If you’re a longtimeBored Pandafollower, you’ve likely read the manystoriesshowing different sides of entitled behavior. However, according to author and therapistDr. Steven Stosny, there are two types of psychological entitlement: one that makes people feel superior to others and one that is compensatory.

In an article forPsychology Today, Dr. Stosny explained the latter.

“Those afflicted with it see themselves as victims of unfair treatment, abuse, disability, or personal defect. They feel entitled to special privileges as compensation,” he wrote.

The author’s story suggests that the woman displayed the second type of entitlement. She felt she deserved a fancy, expensive dinner without doing the same for her friend.

“We’re entitled to receive emotional rewards to the extent that we give them,” Dr. Stosny stated.

Such behavior candamage a friendship, but is cutting ties the immediate solution? According to Dr. Stosny, one way to cope is to avoid taking these actions personally while acting on one’s own sense of fairness.

The sad reality is that entitled friends will continue to walk over you because they know they can. This is where establishing boundaries is crucial.

“Let them know that the behavior is unacceptable and that you will not be able to engage until they adopt a less harmful attitude,” author and social anxiety expertArlin Cuncic, MA, wrote in an article forVery Well Mind.

The author can treat their friend the same way, which does not resolve the issue. They could also sever ties with this friend, whose behavior may only worsen. However, the latter option may be the better option in this situation.

Most readers sided with the author, with many offering their suggestions for payback

Text exchange about a woman missing her friend’s birthday and expressing surprise at her expectation for a grand celebration.

Reddit comments discussing unequal expectations for birthdays.

Text exchange discussing birthday expectations and budgeting.

Comment by user about woman disregarding friend’s birthday.

Reddit comment suggesting a plan to fake a trip and send a nails picture.

Online comment about birthday gift expectations.

Reddit comment by WielderOfAphorisms with birthday neglect advice: “Be busy that night.

Text exchange about birthday expectations and celebrations.

Comment about a woman expecting someone to pay for her dinner at her birthday celebration.

Commentary on friendship and birthday celebrations, expressing justified feelings toward neglectful behavior.

Comment suggesting not attending a dinner without giving a reason, related to a friend’s disregarded birthday.

Comment on friendship dynamics and birthday expectations, emphasizing setting boundaries with selfish friends.

Commentary on friendship dynamics and birthday expectations.

Comment on a woman disregarding a friend’s birthday but wanting a grand celebration for hers, advising to decline politely.

Reddit comment criticizing a woman’s entitled behavior regarding birthdays.

Comment discussing friendship issues, highlighting a disregard for a friend’s birthday and expectations for extravagant celebrations.

Text message advising against enabling narcissistic behavior by ignoring a friend’s birthday.

Comment mocking a woman for disregarding a friend’s birthday and suggesting to block her.

Comment discussing self-centered friendship dynamics and fairness.

Online comment about expectations for a friend’s birthday gift exchange.

Text comment discussing declining a birthday invite and questioning friendship.

Comment suggesting celebrating both birthdays over lunch without gifts or cards.

Comment discussing a woman who forgets a friend’s birthday but wants a big celebration for her own.

Comment about declining expensive birthday invitation with honesty.

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