Naming babies often causes real family drama – for example, my late grandma once didn’t want to accept that I was going to name one of my daughters Eva. And you know why? No one actually knew. She didn’t tell her reasons, but she was damn adamant in her coaxing. Even though these fiery speeches had no effect.

In our story today, its author, the useru/bluebump, faced the unpleasantfactthat her own husband and MIL really wanted to name their future daughter after the man’s late girlfriend, who tragically left this world years and years ago…

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The author of the post is married, they have a 3-year-old son – and will have a daughter soon as well

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The author’s husband started dating her in college, after his longtime high school girlfriend passed away in an accident

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The main problem for the woman is that he is still grieving even after all this time – and her MIL hasn’t even accepted her as her family member

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The mom-to-be felt very uncomfortable with this idea and said “No,” and they ended up having a spat

So, the Original Poster (OP) is quitehappily marriedand she and her husband have a 3-year-old son. She and her spouse met in college on a blind date, and literally on the second date, he asked her out. There was just one thing that marred our heroine’s seemingly cloudless life.

Her husband’s late high school crush. Yes, that’s right. Before the guy met the author, he had been friends with “Annie” for many years – until she died tragically in an accident at the age of eighteen. The guy always said that it was more of a platonic relationship, but his mom was always sure that everything was supposed to end with him and Annie getting married.

Needless to say, our heroine was not at all happy with this idea. They even had a spat and she ended up heading to a friend’s house with her son. And now the woman is not sure how right she was to refuse to name her future daughter Annie. Should she have given in to her husband and his romantic nostalgia?

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“In such cases, there is an unspoken rule –the memoryof the dead is good and commendable, but you shouldn’t make a cult of personality out of this memory,” says Maria Kryvosheeva, apsychologistand NLP coach, whomBored Pandaasked for a comment here. “This girl, alas, has been dead for many years, and naming the kid after her won’t actually bring anything but hurt to the man’s wife.”

Commenters also strongly believe that the memory of Annie has become a kind of trauma in this family. “She is a ghost in your relationship. Your MIL needs counseling on this issue. You are right to feel upset about how you have been treated,” another person wisely added. “I don’t believe you’re being unreasonable. Your husband should not have let it get to this point. Annie needs to be left to RIP.” So do you, our dear readers, also agree with this?

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