Some people choose togo child-free, and understandably so. They are self-aware enough to know their incapabilities and limitations in taking on the hefty responsibility of bringing a human life into the world.
But what happens when these plans go the exact opposite route?This coupledidn’t intend tohave children, and they finalized their decision when the man had a vasectomy. But to their surprise, the woman ended upgetting pregnant.
It turns out the man wasn’t completely honest abouthis procedure, which left the wife confused and distrustful. Scroll down to read the entire story.
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This couple chose not to have children because of moral and practical reasons
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However, the woman got pregnant despite her husband undergoing a vasectomy
Turns out, the man wasn’t completely honest about his procedure
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The woman has since been flooded with doubts, confusion, and frustration toward her husband
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Half-truths are as damaging in a relationship as full-on deception
On the surface, it’s easy to dismiss the man’s actions as shallow and, perhaps, even forgivable. However, his concealment of the entire truth placed him and his wife in a situation they didn’t want to be in.
As relationship and codependency expertDarlene Lancer, JD, LMFT, points out, deception includes “making ambiguous or vague statements” and “telling half-truths.”
The consequences can be costly. It can hinder all types of intimacy with a partner and create an unhealthy habit of telling morehalf-truths, which then turns into a vicious cycle of deceit. However, the person deceived seems to suffer more.
The wife experienced the emotions mentioned above, even doubting her husband’s credibility as a father-to-be.
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Conflict-avoidant lies don’t come from a malicious place
Understanding the man’s motives for lying could be the first step for the couple to overcome the hurdle. Marriage and family therapist Martha Kauppisayspeople who conceal information or tell lies are likely doing it to avoid having a difficult conversation.
In this case, the husband may have lied because he decided to spare himself from trouble rather than inflict emotional pain. Experts, such as New York-based therapistAngie Sandhu, M.S., LMFT, advise couples to have a calm, honest conversation.
In an interview withSELF, Sadhu suggests using non-defensive language to express frustrations rather than accusations. It is also essential to remain open about hearing the person’s side of the story to fosterhealthy communicationthat rebuilds the trust lost.
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