Love is a natural phenomenon because we don’t get to choose who we fall in love with, it kind of just happens. And as long as your partner makes you happy, you don’t have to justify your relationship to anyone, especially not your bigotedfamily.
When Reddit userCivil-Interview-5060announced her engagement to her bi, Latino boyfriend, her ‘old money’ folks were furious. Their racism and homophobia were clearly visible as they tried every trick in the book to separate the two, even digging up dirt on him and getting their hands on his juvenile file!
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The poster’s family is “old money” and they are extremely unhappy that she is marrying Emilio, so they dug up his juvenile file and tried to separate them
But OP yelled at them, saying she already knows everything about Emilio and called them out for invading hisprivacy. But they expressed their anger at how she could be with someone so “dirty”, according to them. Of course, OP asked them to get out, but ever since, she has been constantly getting calls from family, claiming that they were just helping her.
Trupti Bobade, a psychologist atThe Secret IngredientthatBored Pandainterviewed, said that when parents are reluctant to accept their child’s partner, it can lead to significant psychological impacts on the individual, including emotional distress, feelings of guilt, and internal conflict.
She also added that the pressure to conform to parental or cultural expectations can lead to stress, anxiety, and long-term mental health challenges.People also felt that Emilio had already suffered enough and facing something like this from the poster’sparentswould further cause damage to him. And to be honest, even our heart goes out to him, as well as OP, who had to face the toxicity of the family.
Even Trupti said that ongoing disapproval and pressure from a fiancée’s family can strain the couple’s relationship, leading to increased stress, frequent conflicts, and erosion of trust and intimacy. She emphasized that this persistent external pressure may cause doubts about the relationship’s future, social isolation, and potential difficulties in making major life decisions.
But she also argued that while some couples might strengthen their bond in response, others may struggle with the emotional toll, potentially leading to long-term dissatisfaction or even a breakup. She expressed that the cumulative impact of such disapproval can leave lasting emotional scars, affecting the couple’s overall happiness and relationship stability.
When we asked her about how the couple can cope in such situations, she said, “Facing disapproval from a partner’s family is like a ship sailing through stormy seas. The couple, as the crew, must communicate clearly to navigate the turbulent waters, setting a course together and making sure their ship remains steady.”
“By reinforcing the hull with shared goals and positive experiences, they ensure the ship can withstand the waves. As long as they keep their eyes on the horizon, their long-term vision, and trust in their ship’s strength, they can weather the storm and reach calmer, brighter waters together.”
Folks called out her racist and homophobic parents but also expressed alarm at the way they acquired his juvenile file
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