A lack of boundaries may manifest in two general ways: either you allow others to walk all over you, or you overstep other people’s personal space. The latter may be a sense ofentitlementfrom someone who holds more authority, like aparent-in-law, something that tendsto happenquitea lot.

Today’s storyis no different. A woman offered topay for the hotelaccommodations of her son and his wife, but there was a catch: she was tagging along and sleeping in the same room.

The daughter-in-law had been dreading what would have been a relaxing holiday. Now, she plans to book her own room, but she wonders if her actions would be too distasteful.

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Some parents-in-law lack proper boundaries, and it creates unwanted family drama

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A woman was delighted after her mother-in-law offered to pay for hotel accommodations for her vacation

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However, the good deed came with a catch

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Mothers-in-law always want to be in the picture out of fear of feeling left out

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Most of the family drama stories you’ve likely read on this site involve mothers-in-law, and there’s a reason for that. The friction often happens with their son’s wives, and according to California-based psychologistDr. Amy Keller, PsyD, it’s primarily due to fear of abandonment.

“She may have always been the leading lady in her son’s life. And now you have taken her place,” Dr. Keller said in an interview withVery Well Mind.

Some moms-in-law tend to overstep boundaries, likeshowing up unannouncedand expecting to be taken care of or invading personal space. While they may not intentionally want to intrude, their actions may damage the relationship.

“This can lead to a power struggle if she is intentionally or subconsciously hoping to manipulate an outcome to her favor, such as when something does not go her way,” cognitive-behavioral psychologist and authorDr. Terri BacowtoldScary Mommy.

Dr. Bacow adds that other examples of subtle boundary violations may include overstaying one’s welcome, such as choosing to remain in one’s home instead of a hotel. Or, as what happened in this story, staying in the same hotel room because she paid for it.

Teletherapy psychologistDr. Samantha Rodman Whiten, a.k.aDr. PsychMom, attributes such behavior to possible disorders like narcissism or borderline personality. In an article forher website, she emphasized the importance of setting physical and/or emotional boundaries.

Physical boundaries may include limiting visits, limiting communication to texts and emails, or giving a 24-hour notice before seeing each other. Emotional boundaries would involve refusing to tolerate underhanded insults or criticisms.

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