This Redditor found herself in such a situation when, despite agreeing to take wedding pictures on very short notice, she was told after the fact she wouldn’t get paid on the agreed date and decided to not send pictures until receiving payment.
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A wedding photographer was told she wouldn’t get paid on the agreed date, so she refused to send pictures until then
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The wedding photographer agreed to help and traveled 4 hours with her camera to the wedding venue
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She agreed and traveled for 4 hours with her camera to the wedding venue to take the wedding pictures. However, eventually, the photographer was told she wouldn’t be paid until much later that month or maybe only the month after.
The photographer responded she wouldn’t send any more photos of the wedding until she received full payment.This led to the woman’s brother-in-law calling her a jerk, as they needed the pictures as soon as possible.
Despite the agreement to get paid on a certain date, the photographer was told she wouldn’t get paid until much later
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The woman told the man she wouldn’t send the rest of the wedding photos until she received the payment for her work
This, in turn, tends to leave a person feeling resentful in addition to punctuating their status as “the family doormat”.
Daniel explained that while there is value in helping others and being polite, it becomes a problem when politeness and helpfulness equate to people being dishonest about what they can, want, and have time to do. For example, people feel bad saying no to someone in need, even if it means putting their needs on the back burner to suit someone else.
In short, the problem is thinking or being taught to think that one’s own needs are less important than the needs of others. While in fact, part of adult responsibility is to take care of one’s own life first and foremost.
She advised that if helping someone else, especially constantly – means putting yourself out – it might be a good idea to use the 1-day rule. This consists of refraining from answering straight away when requested to do something one doesn’t want to or cannot do, thus avoiding the first impulse of saying yes, and then possibly telling the person the next day that you are unable to help.
Redditors backed the woman for keeping her leverage
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