Not allfriendshipsare meant to last. Some may naturally fizzle out when people drift apart, while others abruptly end because of differences in values.Today’s storyis an example of the latter.
Reddit userLitchloversbelonged to a small group of friends. One day at a restaurant, things came to a head when her two female pals asked a male companion to pick up the tab because “it’s a man’s role.” He refused.
The author’s uncle ended up paying the bill, but she eventually cut ties with both women. Based on her written account on the True Off My Chest subreddit, she seems content with her decision.
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A woman had been close with two other ladies when their relationship took a sour turn during one lunch with a male companion
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The author’s uncle ended up paying for the bill
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She then cut ties with both women she’d been close with for seven years
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Differences in values are a good enough reason to let go of a friendship
The author’s decision to cut ties with her two friends may seem drastic. But according to experts, the differences in their values are a good enough reason to let go.
“If you begin to notice that your core values differ and you don’t have anything in common with your friend anymore, it may be time to reflect on the role this friendship has in your life,” licensed psychologistDr. Roxy Zarrabiwrote in an article forPsychology Today.
The incident likely made the author feel bad about herself, especially after the other friend got mad at her for shouldering the bill. Dr. Zarrabi says this is another valid reason.
There is a healthy way to break up with a friend
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Breaking upis always difficult, whether it’s a romantic relationship or a close platonic one. But if you must go down this road, there is a healthy way to do it.
But while it may involve an immediate severing of connections, Cuncic still recommends leaving a final note before parting ways.
“If it helps, write a little script that expresses what you are feeling.”
What do you think, dear readers? Was the author within reason with her decision?
The author answered some questions, but most commenters sided with her
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