One of the first rules we learn as children is to not take what doesn’t belong to you. But not everyone adheres to that rule, especially when it’s aboutfood. And when it comes to stealing someone else’s lunch at work, one out of five workersadmitthat they’ve eaten someone else’s lunch out of the office fridge.
When one netizen was confronted with one such lunch thief, theydecidedto spice things up. Literally. To out the officeglutton, they added some extra spice to their lunch and even labeled it “very spicy.” When the thief got an upset stomach, colleagues reprimanded the netizen. So, they asked the Internet: whose fault was it really?
To get more perspective on this matter,Bored Pandaasked Louise Carnachan, an organization development consultant and author ofWork Jerks: How to Cope with Difficult Bosses and Colleagues, for her opinion. She kindly agreed to tell us how people can deal with lunch thieves in the office more effectively.
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Workplace relationship consultant Louise Carnachan suggests confronting the thief directly if nothing else works
“General messages are rarely effective especially if you know exactly who needs to receive the message,” Carnachan observes. Instead, talking to the person directly would be a better way to handle the situation. Plus, in this story, it seems that most of the office knew who the thief was, but appeared to accept it.
Unlike some commenters, Carnachan doesn’t think the OP crossed a line. “Making a dish that the offender wouldn’t enjoy hardly falls into revenge territory,” she says, adding that labeling the dish as spicy was actually generous.
The chances of getting a confession are slim, but at least they’d know someone was onto them. “Once he’d fessed up to another colleague, that was the time to approach and say ‘Stop it’—unless you want to ask what you should bring for lunch next week.”
Bringing a cold pack, keeping herlunchat her desk, and complaining to HR are all good solutions. But Carnachan wonders where the boss or the manager is in all of this. “I’d start there,” she says.
She also suggests considering the dynamic between the author and thelunch thief. The OP is a young woman and the lunch thief is a male, although of unknown age. If the two have a contentious relationship, something else might be at play.
If the colleagues don’t see an issue with stealing food, other workplace norms might be off as well
Although to some a stolen lunch from the office might not seem like a big problem, it’s still a sign of disrespect at the workplace. “Taking food may appear to be benign compared to other theft because it’s kind of like acting out at home with siblings,” Carnachan says.
“Frankly, it’s still stealing money, time, and sustenance from someone. Would it be okay to pilfer from their wallet or take their lunch tray if you could get away with it?” she suggests considering.
The bigger issue here might be that the OP’s coworkers don’t think food theft is a big deal. “Is it okay in that team to claim credit for other people’s ideas? Do they take supplies that belong to other people or the company? You’d hope that you don’t have to remind adults not to steal but it appears that the norms of this team (and perhaps the organization?) are hazy on this issue,” Carnachan observes.
“People who feel like they don’t matter, aren’t respected, or that the company doesn’t support them will find ways to exercise personal control even if it’s in unhealthy ways,” she adds. “High-functioning teams don’t take from each other. They add to each other’s talents.”
Instead, a good manager would look to enhance workers’ reliance on each other’s talents and showcase their strengths. A goodworkplace culture, according to Carnachan, is one where management recognizes their workers for their combined efforts. “That’s the workplace culture I’d want,” she says.
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