When you first startdatingsomeone—especially someone you really, really like—it can be easy to let certain things slip through.
But this netizen didn’t fail to notice her date’s bizarre behaviors that might indicate possible troubles in the future. She sharedher storywith fellow Mumsnet users, asking if his actions could potentially be earlyred flags, and quite a few of them gave their two cents about it. You can find the full story and the netizens’ reactions below.
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When they first start dating someone, people might view their date and the relationship through rose-tinted glasses
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This woman didn’t fail to notice her date’s behaviors that could be considered early red flags, though
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Whether positive or negative, a first impression can be deceitful
Sometimes there is no way to tell that someone’s true self is not actually as nice as they may seem; not until they decide to show their true colors, at least. That’s why first impressions might be deceitful. Though many people believe they are quite important when forming social relationships – according toa pollof 2000 adults, roughly a third of them say that first impressions matter a lot.
The poll found that roughly 35% of respondents believe that it’s quite difficult for individuals to change their perceptions once they’ve been made. That’s why it might not be easy to notice early red flags when dating someone, if the first impression they made was good. Though the OP’s story shows that certain behaviors should not be ignored, even if someone seems nice, or comes across as a real gentleman, as it was in her case.
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A first impression often colors the way we view a person later on
Talking about red flags and the role first impressions play regarding them, Dr. Lawrence Josephs, a professor of psychology at the Derner School of Psychology of Adelphi University, noted that upon starting to date someone, people try to make the best possible first impression in order to get a second date and develop arelationship. Ina piecefor Psychology Today, he explained that the first impression their dates make then colors the way they continue to perceive that person.
“Once we form a first impression of someone whom we are dating, something called ‘the confirmation bias’ kicks in. We selectively look for evidence of everything that confirms our first impressions,” Dr. Josephs pointed out. “We selectively ignore anything that challenges our first impression and calls it into question. That means we start to ignore the red flags. We start to make excuses for anything that doesn’t fit the idealized image of someone with whom we are beginning to fall in love.”
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The OP provided more details about the situation
After a while, the OP put up an update on how the story developed
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