Rejection is always harsh. I mean, you muster up all of your courage to tell someone special what you really think about them and get shut down. No one likes that.
The big difference is that some people can handle rejection, but others really don’t fare well. There’s only one good way to react to “no”, though. Yep, this one has an objective answer.
Once you hear those two syllables, you should really just walk off, tail tucked between your legs or not. But as the saying goes, some peoplereallycan’t take “no” for an answer.
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Sometimes kids don’t really know how rejection works so they keep trying after getting that initial “no”
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A mom took it online to be judged whether she was a jerk for not disciplining her daughter after hearing her harsh rejection of a fellow teen
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Her daughter is fed up and tired of fielding attention from guys all the time and them turning on her after she rejects them
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After the 4th time the same guy had asked her out, the 12 y.o. girl harshly told him leave her alone, slipping a “freak” in there
She started getting calls from other people saying that she needs to teach her daughter tolerance and punish her, but the mom refused to do so
Highschool crushes are a dime a dozen. I mean, at the time, they feel like the most important thing in the world, with teens practically being ready for the wedding a day after they hit it off with someone.
But hindsight is 20/20 and now we’ve got the privilege of knowing that those relationships usually have the same lasting time as left out milk.
Without this vital knowledge, teens overreact to every single potential relationship. Okay, maybe I’m being too harsh, notevery single one, but we both know that proportions are more than overblown. It makes teens fret about pretty much every single thing they can control about themselves and even some that they really shouldn’t be trying to control.
It’s a lot of kids pretending to be things, wanting to be “cooler” than they think they are, more attractive, funnier and all of that stuff. I believe that the whole “be yourself” stems from that period, when kids will do anything just to make it with a girl. As time goes on they mellow out, find their own niche, and can feel better in their own skin.
A quick aside – “be yourself” isnot really good advice. I know you’ve probably heard it so many times that it feels like you’re being beaten over the head with it, but I don’t mean that it’s bad advice because it’s an empty platitude.
It’s bad advice because “yourself” could be prejudiced, rude, condescending, elitist, someone who will not accept rejection, and so on… Be your best self! Work on yourself, develop your hobbies, and look for a partner because you want to love and be loved, not because you don’t have anything better to do and feel bad around your pals without one.
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Going back to the whole rejection thing in today’s story. Was the girl’s response harsh? Yeah, it was, but the real question is whether it was unjustified.
So you explode at the person annoying you to no end, because you know that talking to them one on one has ceased working.
I understand it may seem too harsh, especially when sources say that autistic peoplemay struggle far morewith these feelings, but the teen shouldn’t feel obligated to date or be nice to anyone with any disorder, especially if they’re inconsiderate to their feelings.
This whole story shows how important it is to teach your kids boundaries and how to take rejection. Since we’ve seemingly got that boundary part down pat in this story, let’s talk about rejection.
Finally, if kids get used to more difficult topics such as rejection and boundaries while they’re young, they’ll be more likely to broach difficult topics with you in the future and that kind of openness between kids and parents is truly a thing to behold.
Even though her community disagrees, the AITA community firmly believes that neither she, neither her daughters are jerks
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