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Imagine falling into a comfortable rhythm with your partner for fifteen years, until you find out that they have been resentful toward you

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The author and her husband work together and spend most of their days together, so she always lets him have his space when he’s with friends

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Her husband mostly spends his Saturdays playing football with his teammates while she stays home taking care of their kids

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Because of this, she doesn’t have a relationship with his teammates and their partners, but this has really upset her husband

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He’s suddenly demanding that she watch him every Saturday, bring their kids, and make friends with his teammates and their partners

For fifteen years, the OP and herhusbandhad an arrangement that seemed to work. They work together and are only apart on Saturdays and Tuesday evenings, so when he would go to play football on Saturdays, the OP believed he enjoyed having space for at least that day. His friends were his teammates, and they usually only socialized during the season.

She admitted to watching him play but stopped when taking theirchildrenalong became a bit burdensome. However, she also didn’t mind taking full charge of their children during the weekend while her husband was out playing with his teammates. Because of this, though, she wasn’t able to form friendships with her husband’s teammates.

While she hates seeing him upset, she’s also confused—why does this suddenly matter so much to him now? Besides, she already has her own circle of friends who she genuinely enjoys being around, and she isn’t sure she needs morefriendsat the moment.

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According toBetterHelp, communication is very important in building and maintaining a healthy, romantic relationship. Since no one is a mind reader, open communication is what helps partners express their feelings and thoughts to avoid misunderstandings and resentment from building. The OP’s husband’s concern was understandable—however, there was an accumulation of years of unspoken expectations.

Harmony Mental Health Counselinghighlightsthat sharing hobbies and interests strengthens relationships through bonding, satisfaction, and encouraging personal growth. Nevertheless, the key is to do all these with an open mind, prioritize quality time, and make them enjoyable rather than stressful.

Netizens stated that the husband’s sudden demand is unreasonable and unfair, especially after 15 years of being completely fine with the arrangement. However, others suggested seeking a middle ground. While they agreed that demanding she attend every game may be excessive for her, she could make an occasional effort.

If you were in this wife’s shoes, would you give in and start to attend the games or stand your ground?

While netizens think it’s a bit unreasonable to bring this up after fifteen years, some believe the author should meet him in the middle

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