When their kids are born,parentsmake some silent sacrifices that we don’t even know of, because things don’t stay the same after having a child. They have to mold their lives so that they get to spend more time with their children, while also juggling their old life.
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Parents make so many silent sacrifices after their kids are born and we don’t even know about some of these
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He offered to have his mom visit her and help when he was gone, but she declined as she felt it would be more work for her
She felt extremely tired managing everything on her own and claimed that it was too much for her
Unfortunately, thekidalso caught a cold, and looking after it, she found herself running on less sleep and low energy, which does sound like a struggle. On top of it, her husband had only sent her one text inquiring about the kid but not how she was doing.
OP also tells us that he had offered to have hismothercome and help her out, but she preferred not to as it would just be more work for the poster and she didn’t really have the energy to deal with it. In a frustrated tone, she further elaborated that the husband had planned a couple’s trip without asking her, and she had said no as she didn’t feel like it.
Moreover, he also had another long weekend planned at the end of the month, and it was probably the last straw for her. She vented online and said that things change after having kids and he should’ve been on just a short trip for 2 days and 1 night; however, netizens couldn’t reach a verdict.
Many people felt that she was being unreasonable as her husband was allowed to have some part of his old life even after they had kids. They felt it was normal as long as she too got to have part of her old life as well, and it was not just one-sided. Folks thought that she was overreacting probably due to postpartum depression.
Researchsuggests, “Postpartum rage is a mood disruption that causes intense anger, aggression, and agitation in the weeks and months after a person gives birth. A new mom experiencing postpartum rage may be easily frustrated, feel like they hate their partner, lose their temper, or yell more often than before they were pregnant. It is often a symptom of postpartum depression or anxiety.”
As per theCenter for Couples Counseling, it’s pretty common to have increased conflicts after couples become parents, so it’s completely normal. Many people who empathized with the poster mentioned that she could sit down and talk to him about how it was bothering her and come to a resolution, as it would be healthier for her.
Netizens were divided as some sympathized with her while some felt that it was fine for her husband to have one trip a year
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