There are different types of moms in this world – some sincerely wanttheir childrento start a full independent life as soon as possible, while others continue to consider their beloved son a little vulnerable tot in this cruel world until old age.Hisold age, that is…
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The author of the post has a husband and 2 kids, and a very tenacious mother-in-law too
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The author’s MIL even resorted to manipulations over her age and health – despite being 67 years old and quite healthy
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So recently the MIL wanted to come over for a holiday but she also told the family that she can’t afford to contribute a single penny
So, the Original Poster (OP) and her husband have two children, 7 and 4 years old, and after the birth of the first kid, the husband began, which is generally reasonable, to payless attentionto his mother – simply because the children required a significant part of his responsibility. Both emotional and financial.
The mom, according to the author, has always been quite demanding of her only son. But over time, the couple changed their place of residence (they now live about 20 miles away from the MIL’s place), and communication with her became more episodic.
At the same time, as our heroine claims, her MIL is actually 67 years old and in excellent health – but these phrases still affect the author’s spouse greatly. For example, she asked to come visit them for a holiday – but at the same time said that her financial situation won’t allow her to contribute a single penny. It has gotten to the point, says the OP, that she herself has begun to feel like the third wheel there…
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Well, mothers often have a hard time letting their adult sons go about their family life, and in doing so, they sometimes create real problems for them in their marriages: problems that could even lead to adivorce.
“Some mothers do resort to manipulating their ownhealthfactors in order to ‘tie’ their sons to themselves more tightly when they feel that his family is starting to take up more and more of his time and attention,” says Irina Matveeva, apsychologistand certified NLP specialist, with whomBored Pandagot in touch for a comment here.
“From my experience, I can say that very often, such situations lead to serious family troubles – and now this family, too, it seems to me, is taking this slippery path, fraught with problems. This woman should perhaps talk to her husband and mother-in-law about it – this can avoid misunderstandings in the future.”
And one of the readers suggested a more indifferent approach – just to take advantage of a free evening. “Get the kids to bed, order myself something delicious from room service and roll around in the bed in glorious solitude,” was their idea. And which point of view do you, our dear readers, lean more towards?
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