Today’s article is a classic example of it where Reddit userThese_Constant_7905narrates how his grandpa was awful to his dad when he was a kid, so much so, that he refused to reconcile with him. And when the poster’s mom and siblings tried to force dad, he considered divorce over mending things with his father.
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Grandpa was a toxic person who didn’t treat his dad right when he was a kid and it was still evident from dad’s actions when he made mistakes or even cried
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When grandpa reached out, the poster’s mom and siblings were excited and wanted to spend Christmas with him, but he and his dad didn’t want to, which the others didn’t like
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Even for his birthday, dad only celebrated it with the poster and refused to stay home as he knew the others were going to take him to grandpa, which he didn’t want at all
Tired of their constant pushing to reconcile with grandpa, dad considered divorce and when the poster’s mom and siblings expected him to fix things, he said they had to live with their actions
In today’s story, our teen poster narrated the conundrum that struck hisfamily. It all started when the original poster’s (OP) dad was a child. His mom passed away when he was at the tender age of 10 years and his father was not at all nice to him. Fast forward to the present, the poster said that his grandpa left such a negative impact on his dad that to date, he has always felt ashamed when he made a mistake or been disgusted with himself if he ever cried. Right at the beginning, our heart goes out to the poster’s dad, doesn’t it?
Well, about three years ago, his grandpa reached out to hismomand siblings. They were excited and welcomed him to the family, but his dad refused to do the same. The siblings said that they had a right to know their grandpa and continued bonding with him, also dragging the teen with them. He obliged in the beginning but refused to go later.
The dad stood firm and stated that he would leave the house if his father stepped into it. Because of this, the poster’s mom always took thekidsto their grandpa’s house. Come Christmas, they insisted that they wanted to spend it with their grandpa. However, OP and his dad refused. His mom called his dad “selfish” and also tried to force the teen to accompany them. But, his dad stepped in and said that he would spend Christmas with him. And this really upset them.
The poster’s mom’s and siblings’ constant pushing was finally a breaking point for his dad, and he wanted a divorce. Just imagine the amount ofmental damagehis toxic father did to him to make him take this huge step! Frightful, right? And when the family heard about the divorce consideration, they all panicked and ran to the poster. They expected him to fix things. However, he backed his father and said that they deserved the consequences of their actions and had to live with it. He also mentioned that the way they tried to manipulate his father was wrong and they should learn from it.
McLean Hospitalhas said that child harm can have a life-long impact on kids. As per them, “Childhood harm has mental and emotional consequences. Children who experience ill-treatment are more likely to develop anxiety, depression, and memory issues. Shame and guilt often also result, with children sometimes blaming themselves for the situation or viewing themselves as somehow defective. People who experienced childhood harm may have intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, and nightmares, which can be symptoms of PTSD. It can also result in emotional numbing, social isolation, and panic.”
But when he finally put his terrible past behind him, he was again reminded about it when OP’s grandpa suddenly decided to get in touch. Netizens said that he was aware of the damage he was still doing to his son and had no remorse for it. Many of them also called out his mom for her atrocious behavior of making her husband go through all this.
People online expressed their sympathies to the poster’s father and applauded him for standing up for himself, while they called out his mom’s unacceptable behavior
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