Long-termrelationshipsare all about accepting the other person as they are without wanting them to be a completely different person. But not everyone believes in keeping silent and maintaining the peace. Some people constantly to mold their spouse or partner into a perfect person.
This can be frustrating and difficult for the other partner to cope with and can make them feel like they aren’t good enough. A poster on Reddit began questioning hiswife’sinterest in him after she began picking at his flaws a little too often.
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Wife suddenly starts badgering her husband to look better, lose weight, and change his style 4 years into their marriage, he wonders if she’s lost interest in him
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Guy says that even though he isn’t attractive, his personality always seemed to be enough for his wife, and that she was satisfied with him doing basic hygiene
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Even though she swore she loved him, her actions have made her seem looks-obsessed, especially when she burst into tears after he shaved off his facial hair
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According to therapists, when awoman loses interestin a man, it tends to lead to a loss in intimacy. This might happen in the bedroom or also in normal interactions such as spending quality time together. As the OP stated, his wife doesn’t want to be intimate nearly as often, which might signal that she is losing interest in him or not feeling the same level ofattractionas before.
But her change in feelings towards him manifested in an unhealthy desire to make him better. Clinical social workerAllan Schwartzstates that: “an unhealthy wish to fix others is to get into relationships where the partner is seen as someone who needs fixing. One problem with this is that the other person may not want fixing and may not even see a need to be fixed. The other problem is that any relationship based on one person trying to fix the other is doomed to failure.”
The wife’s constant nitpicking over her husband’s appearance made him feel like he was not good enough, and it affected his self-esteem. Even though he kept questioning her as to why she suddenly wanted him to change, she shared that it was only to get him to reach his full potential.
Commenters told the poster that his wife is probably doing all this because she cares for him and that he should also make an effort to improve his health
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