Being nonchalant is a superpower in a world where everyone cares about what other people think. It’s tough not to getanxiousand overthink everything you do while doing it, but apparently, some people have managed to overthrow these social shackles.That’s exactly what the people featured in this list are like. You’ll get a chance to read unhingedstoriesabout them, and, who knows, maybe it will inspire you to worry less about what society thinks so that you can do whatever you want.More info:RedditThis post may includeaffiliate links.
Being nonchalant is a superpower in a world where everyone cares about what other people think. It’s tough not to getanxiousand overthink everything you do while doing it, but apparently, some people have managed to overthrow these social shackles.That’s exactly what the people featured in this list are like. You’ll get a chance to read unhingedstoriesabout them, and, who knows, maybe it will inspire you to worry less about what society thinks so that you can do whatever you want.More info:Reddit
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I was in a McDonalds during lunch rush. A guy walked in and tried to rob the place. The manager told him he didnt have time to get robbed and just took the next person’s order. The place was packed and the would be robber just left empty handed and ignored.
So my parents owned an automotive garage. One day a guy comes in and says my headlights don’t work it’s the switch. Dad checks isn’t out and it isn’t the switch. The dude has four blown headlights. It was the old sealed beam headlights so it was expensive but not as expensive as a switch on the column. Anyway guy piece up the car, dad explains he just needed new headlamps not a switch. Dude thanks him, pays and leaves. He comes back a little later complaining that dad didn’t do what he asked and he was ripped off. Dad explained again that wasn’t his problem but he persisted. Mom gave him his money back but told him she needed to get the lights back. Dude says nah he’ll come back. In the moment of giving no f***s mom walks out and smashes all the lights with a hammer. She comes back in and sits down as the guy is yelling about calling the cops. Mom dials 911 and hands him the phone. The cops show up and they tell him he got his money back so the lights were moms property to do with as she pleased. He yelled and the police lady told him to leave before she wrote a ticket for driving with no lights.Edit: : wow almost 2k upvotes. That’s cool! The garage was in a good part of town, then a bad part, now it’s good again. When the neighborhood was kind of crappy we met a lot of characters and had a lot of crazy stuff happen. My Dad sold the property a few years back and I miss working there and just taking all the craziness in.
This might blow your mind, but asurveyof 2000 Brits found that, on average, folks spend more than 6 years of their lives directly or indirectly worrying about other peoples’ opinions. That’s why it almost feels inspiring to read (some of) these stories where people threw caution to the wind and did exactly what they wanted.We atBored Pandareached out toSarah Arnold-Hallto understand how to effectively stop worrying about what other people think. Sarah is ahigh-performance coachwho specializes in helping ambitious people take consistent action towards their goals. She shared her thoughts below.
This might blow your mind, but asurveyof 2000 Brits found that, on average, folks spend more than 6 years of their lives directly or indirectly worrying about other peoples’ opinions. That’s why it almost feels inspiring to read (some of) these stories where people threw caution to the wind and did exactly what they wanted.
We atBored Pandareached out toSarah Arnold-Hallto understand how to effectively stop worrying about what other people think. Sarah is ahigh-performance coachwho specializes in helping ambitious people take consistent action towards their goals. She shared her thoughts below.
Had a customer service manager talking to a woman about a return. He’d already told her he couldn’t do it a few times. She demanded he get his manager. He, no joke, spins a circle and says, “They said no.”.
When I was in sixth form, around 16/17, I suggested to my history class that we all take our chairs and move them to other side of the desks and face the back of the class as a joke.We did so, our teacher walked in and just looked at us, grabbed his books/notes from his desk and moved to the back of the class, facing us and started the lesson. No one said a word about the change and he acted like he didn’t even notice.I’m still friends with this teacher now at 22.
From wearing a simple outfit to acting a certain way in public, most of us overthink how others will judge us for the things we do. We askedSarahwhy almost everyone places so much weight on other people’s opinions. She said: “You can never be certain what anyone else is thinking.”“You are the creator of everyone else’s thoughts. Not in their mind, but in your mind, which is where the anxiety is happening. Once you realize other people’s opinions are really just your ownbraintelling a story, you have a choice: to decide others are thinking good things about you or to decide they’re thinking bad things about you.”“Which do you prefer? I prefer to decide they are thinking good things. But sometimes, when I’m having a hard day, and I just can’t imagine they’re thinking good things, I choose to think they’re thinking bad things about me and just let them be wrong. It’s okay for people to be wrong about you. There’s freedom in that,” she added.
From wearing a simple outfit to acting a certain way in public, most of us overthink how others will judge us for the things we do. We askedSarahwhy almost everyone places so much weight on other people’s opinions. She said: “You can never be certain what anyone else is thinking.”
“You are the creator of everyone else’s thoughts. Not in their mind, but in your mind, which is where the anxiety is happening. Once you realize other people’s opinions are really just your ownbraintelling a story, you have a choice: to decide others are thinking good things about you or to decide they’re thinking bad things about you.”
“Which do you prefer? I prefer to decide they are thinking good things. But sometimes, when I’m having a hard day, and I just can’t imagine they’re thinking good things, I choose to think they’re thinking bad things about me and just let them be wrong. It’s okay for people to be wrong about you. There’s freedom in that,” she added.
My boss' girlfriend works in the company. One time she was in my section just complaining about something to my manager, who was silently working. Getting no answer she asks him:- Manager, are you ignoring me?To which he promptly replies:- Yes, I am.She then just left.
Nobody truly wants to be stuck in a negative loop where they give too much weight to the opinions of other people. But it’s important to understand that sometimes, these feelings stem from things that aren’t fully in our control.
One guy I knew was a pretty good varsity tennis player. Coach gave the no drinking/smoking speech. Something to the effect of you need to choose between partying and tennis. Dude just silently got up and left the team meeting.
I teach pre-kindergarten at a public school. My students are 4 and 5 years old. Last year, I had a rule that no more than 3 kids could be at a learning center at any given time. When we transitioned from carpet time to center time, I would call on the kids who were sitting quietly to pick their centers first. I had two kids sitting next to each other: James, who was sitting quietly waiting to be called on, and Allison, who kept loudly and rather obnoxiously announcing that she wanted to go to the sensory table, which I had just stocked with new toys. Two kids had already chosen to go there, so there was only one spot left.I called on James first. He walked up to the center chart and I asked him where he wanted to go. He looked at the center chart, then at Allison, then at the center chart, then back at Allison, and while staring straight at her, jammed his finger at the sensory table.While he was walking away, I said, “wow, James, that’s cold man.” But I don’t think he heard me over Allison’s screaming.
I was in line at the grocery store a few years ago. Ahead of me was a mother with her daughter who was about 5 years old. The little girl had a lollypop that was in her mouth most of the time… until she pulled it out to ask her mom something and promptly dropped it. Before anyone could say anything, she’d swooped it back up and popped it back in her mouth. The cashier looked disgusted. Mom just shrugged and said, “She’s eaten worse,” and continued the transaction.
Caring about others’ judgments isn’t always a bad thing. We asked Sarah Arnold-Hall in what kinds of situations it would be okay to place importance on what other people think. She told us that “caring about (listening and respecting) people’s opinions is different from letting their opinions control your decisions and feelings.”
“I experienced about 5 minutes of discomfort to send the text, which saved me months of discomfort of following through on something I had no time, energy, or desire to do,” she shared. Meaning that we absolutely can place importance on what other people think, but we shouldn’t go overboard doing that in a way that harms us.
I once was walking down the street with one of my bosses. Total stoner. Him not me. We go to cross the street at a stop sign and get part way across and the car lurches forward and hits my boss hard enough that he falls onto the hood. He was mid sentance when the car hit him and he literally didn’t even skip a beat. He just continued his sentence like nothing at all happened while keeping eye contact with me the entire time! Not only that but when the driver yelled asking if he was ok he didn’t even look over…just gave a little hand wave to the driver while still keeping eye contact with me and chatting away.
My mum and I didn’t get along growing up, partly due to her alcohol dependency. We solely relied on welfare and then I became the main income provider at 15 through part-time jobs, before moving out on my own at 16.It was the same argument every day, I would bank transfer the rental and utility payments but refused to hand over cash because she’d spend it on liquor. She began throwing objects and flipping out, and eventually said “Fine, if you don’t care about money, why don’t you just cut up my credit cards?” in a baiting sort of way. She handed me scissors and two credit cards.I just stared at them blankly and being an a*****e teenager, then cut up her credit cards.She absolutely lost it. My brother lazily looked over at the scissors she handed me and said “What exactly did you expect?”.
Had an entry level programming class in college where a few students came in with multiple boxes of eggos and a toaster. They just plugged it in at the side of the class and started passing out plates of waffles. The professor eventually noticed, asked if they were making waffles to which they confirmed, chuckled, and kept right on from where he left off. . . Tasty : ).
Pretty much everyone featured on this list just doesn’t seem to care about society’s judgments. It’s an oddly freeing state of being and one that probably many of us aspire to achieve. That’s why we asked Sarah Arnold-Hall how totake actionand stop giving so much of a damn about outside opinions.She shared her experience, saying: “I like to imagine I have an inner jury of people who get to help me make my decisions, but ultimately, I am the judge, and I have the final say. They get to make their argument and present their evidence, but what happens next is up to me. I also get to choose who is on that inner jury.”She also added that “just because a friend, family member, or stranger has an opinion doesn’t mean they get to be on the jury. Every case, every decision in mylifegets its own jury, and I actively imagine selecting people who are on it (and sometimes, I have to consciously remove people from the jury when I accidentally let them in!).”
Pretty much everyone featured on this list just doesn’t seem to care about society’s judgments. It’s an oddly freeing state of being and one that probably many of us aspire to achieve. That’s why we asked Sarah Arnold-Hall how totake actionand stop giving so much of a damn about outside opinions.
She shared her experience, saying: “I like to imagine I have an inner jury of people who get to help me make my decisions, but ultimately, I am the judge, and I have the final say. They get to make their argument and present their evidence, but what happens next is up to me. I also get to choose who is on that inner jury.”
She also added that “just because a friend, family member, or stranger has an opinion doesn’t mean they get to be on the jury. Every case, every decision in mylifegets its own jury, and I actively imagine selecting people who are on it (and sometimes, I have to consciously remove people from the jury when I accidentally let them in!).”
My mum and her sister never really had a great relationship, but one thing really stands out. My aunt cycled through boyfriends pretty quickly. She was one of those people who after spending a couple of weeks with someone was convinced they’d be together for the rest of their lives - only to feel the same about someone else a couple of months later. At 26 she’d already been divorced once after a rushed marriage (no, no kids involved) and was engaged again to a guy she’d known for less than half a year and only been dating for three months.Others in the family were trying to find subtle, tactful ways to hint to her that they thought she was moving too fast and he wasn’t a great match for her, but my mum ran out of sh*ts to give at a family dinner in this exact way:Aunt (to mum): The bridesmaids are wearing purple, so your dress needs to-Mum: Oh, I’m not going.Aunt: /WHAT?!/Mum: I’m busy that day. Don’t worry, I’ll come to your next wedding instead.They didn’t talk again until after the next divorce. Mum did indeed go to her next wedding instead. And the one after that. And the one after that (my aunt’s current husband).
The nurse-in-charge at our emergency department has been working there for 20 years. Our hospital is in a rough area, she’s seen it all. We have people come in with gunshot wounds, concealed weapons. She has single-handedly tackled violent patients with superhuman strength because they’re high on [illegal substance], etc.A disheveled guy came to be treated for assault, to be arrested after discharge. He was giving everyone st all night, almost made his nurse cry. The nurse-in-charge called from the nurses station to cut that out. He called her a “miserable, old fat ct”.The nurse-in-charge picked up a chocolate doughnut from the nurses station and without breaking eye contact, started slowly chewing it in front of him. Then she called the police to pick him up.
Let’s face it: nobody can truly be free ofsocietaljudgments and other people’s opinions, but they definitely shouldn’t control our entire lives. There should be a fine balance between caring and not caring about what others think. It’s definitely a good goal to aspire to.Have you ever been this nonchalant about something? If so, tell us about a time you did something without giving a damn about the consequences.
Let’s face it: nobody can truly be free ofsocietaljudgments and other people’s opinions, but they definitely shouldn’t control our entire lives. There should be a fine balance between caring and not caring about what others think. It’s definitely a good goal to aspire to.
Have you ever been this nonchalant about something? If so, tell us about a time you did something without giving a damn about the consequences.
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In 9th grade one of my teachers said that old threat that goes like “If you don’t want to learn, then get up and leave.” to the whole class. This kid actually gets up and leaves the classroom. It took a few mimutes for the teacher to notice while we all quietly laughed. When she does notice, she send someone to get the kid which takes like,, another 10 minutes and when they do get back, the guy is super chill. The teacher is so in shock that she can barely scold him. Kid just shrugs and goes “You said we could leave.” he then proceeds to sit back down and act like nothing happened. He just didn’t give a f**k about what the teacher was telling him afterwards.
When I cam out as gay, I decided to come out to each of my siblings individually. By the time I got to my younger brother he just said “cool” and went back to what he was doing. Like most of my family he’s very religious, so he does believe that homosexuality is a sin, but in that moment, he didn’t feel like he had to remind me that like some of my family did.
Girl I went to high school with had some food issues. We had some teachers who would watch us during lunch time to make sure no one left or caused any major trouble. This one English teacher used to constantly ask this girl if she ate (she very rarely did) and would lecture her on how unhealthy she was being, etc.One day after a particular “I’ll call your parents, you’re only hurting yourself” talk that everyone could hear, this girl picked up her sandwich and quietly ate it, then proceeded to walk over to the trash can, shoved her fingers down her throat, and vomited while looking this woman directly in the eye.
A guy in my department had a long-running feud with his line manager (who was known to be a bit of a dk). After a particularly tense email exchange, he responded with an email that had an underlying “go fk yourself” message, and CC’d the entire department, including our senior management team, and the upper management of the entire organisation. It was a beautifully crafted rage-quit. Sadly, we didn’t get to see the follow-up.
My aunt disapproved of her nephew’s upcoming wedding and vocalized this numerous times (they were only getting married because the girl was pregnant).My aunt ended up going to the wedding wearing pajamas.They got divorced like 6 months later.
My mom worked in a hospital in a very shady area and would start work at 5:30am. She apparently rolled a stop sign and got a ticket. According to her she always rolled the stop sign around there because she was too nervous to actually stop at that time of the morning. When it came to paying the ticket, their online system wasn’t working so she had to send a check. In the memo she wrote “(area) cops hate nurses”. She then went on vacation and when she returned she had a letter from the city saying she as a warrant out for her arrest because some how her check got “lost in the mail” Not gonna lie, her screaming at whoever on the phone really made my day.
Second semester senior year of high school, after AP season, this kid walked in every day with nothing but a pillow and a new quart-size bottle of iced tea. Not only did she not give a f**k, but the teachers also didn’t.
This guyfrom a while back who didn’t give a f**k the bar he was in was being robbed.
I know a guy who got in trouble for being late to work so he started punching in at 8:59. He also pulled out a loaf of bread and made a peanut butter sandwhich in the middle of a meeting (he had his own jar of peanut butter, butter knife, and sandwhich baggy).
I was in a Jiu-Jitsu match against a guy that was notorious for not tapping out. I bent his arm 5 different ways that an arm should not bend.Even had him in an armbar with his arm bent 20 degrees backwards while I was hanging upside down from his neck like a giant necklace. His ELBOW POPPED and he STILL wouldn’t tap out!Ended up tearing his foot out of the socket before he finally tapped.
I went on a white water rafting trip and at the end of the night all the guides stayed at the same campground as the rest of us. They were a lot douchey and when we all had a campfire and beers, they were standoffish and then started talking s**t about us (anyone who went on the tour).I got drunk and took a dump in one of their kayaks. I was pretty pleased.
Had a coworker get almost batsh*t drunk during a shift, we were waiters and he was able to keep his “cool” during the whole shift, it was after the shift ended that we realized he was way too drunk.
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