Marriage can be difficult for manycouples. And because things can get extra tricky sometimes, taking a breather through a short vacation can be helpful for a much-needed reset.

Now, he has turned to the internet for answers. Was he wrong for not getting everything done? Or should his wife have been more understanding, instead?

Arguments and heated moments between spouses are inevitable

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

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A husband decided to complete some tasks and chores at home as his wife went on a weekend getaway

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

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But he threw his back out while completing a chore for one of his son’s rooms

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

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“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

The OP provided more details to his story for added context

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

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He also answered some questions

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

The husband expected appreciation, but instead, he got a cold shoulder

The situation between the original poster and his wife isn’t new among married couples with children.Researchhas shown that spouses report lower marital satisfaction when they become parents.

“It didn’t take long after I gave birth to realize just how wrong I was,” Hartley wrote in an article forRomper. “Our once easy marriage suddenly became incredibly difficult, and because we had always enjoyed such an effortless relationship, I didn’t know how to cope. Neither did my husband.”

But what about having kidscauses that sudden shift? Holly, a Canada-based mother, spoke toBBC, blaming the division of labor with her husband as the primary trigger of their fights.

“I had an emergency C-section. My body was falling apart. I was feeding two babies 24/7, not sleeping. And if one of them was crying, he would be like, ‘Oh, they just want you.’ I had so much rage towards him.”

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

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Love cannot thrive without understanding one another, experts remind

Based on the OP’s account, there seems to be an apparentlack of understandingbetween him and his wife. For veteran psychologistJeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D., understanding holds a slightly heavier importance than love.

The OP admitted he was expecting a “boatload of appreciation” from his spouse. Meanwhile, his wife refused to help with the household duties because “she deserved a break.” Dr. Bernstein also spoke about this kind of situation in his piece.

“Our egos are what seem to get in the way of understanding those who we love and care about. Often, it is our need to be right that makes what others think and feel so wrong for us.”

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

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“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

But those who went against him didn’t feel he deserved the appreciation from his wife

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

The husband shared his final thoughts about who he thinks was in the wrong

“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

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“Thank You, I Guess”: Man’s ‘Surprise’ After Wife’s Getaway Weekend Doesn’t Go As Planned

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