An old classicalfairy taleplot, familiar to many of us from early childhood, tells how an evil stepmother plots various intrigues against the main characters, up to and including threats to life and health. But we hardly ever thought that the opposite extreme is also fraught with problems. For example, when the stepmom is overly friendly.
Here is a story from the useru/StringRoutine7346, who lost his mom at the age of five, and since then his whole life has been spent under the same roof with his stepmother. A decent woman, in fact, who, however, turned out to have an obsession – to make her stepson her ‘real’ son.
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The stepmom has always tried to be a decent parent for the kid, sometimes even overdoing it
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The woman’s greatest wish was to change the stepson’s first and last name – since his middle one coincides with her own dad’s first name
So recently the woman returned to this idea, but the teen refused once more, claiming that he won’t accept her as his mom
For example, when the author was 8 or 9, they even tried to formalize the change of his first and last name for him through the court. However, they didn’t take into account that in this case, the consent of the child himself is needed – and the original poster, when the judge demanded his presence in court, naturally didn’t give this consent.
The woman made her last attempt quite recently, saying that if the stepson did change his first and last names right now, it would be a wonderful gift for her for Christmas or her birthday. And he would finally become “mom’s boy…” But our hero once again resolutely stated that her wish was not an incentive for him at all – and that he would never accept her as his mother.
She, of course, was incredibly upset, burst into tears and called the original poster “spoiled and bratty” – but the teen stayed unshakably sure that he was right in this argument. And he decided to ask netizens for advice and support as well.
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“On the one hand, this woman really tried to become a real and decent mother for her stepson. On the other hand, she definitely overdid it in her desire,” says Irina Matveeva, apsychologistand certified NLP specialist, whomBored Pandaasked for a comment on this case.
“Obviously, for a teenager, the memory of his late mother is something akin to a shrine, and this is something that is incredibly important to him. Therefore, trying to deprive him of this memory, to break hisfamily ties– looks, to put it mildly, very unpedagogical. And absolutely unreasonable too.”
“In the end, parenting is more about the ability to do good for your children, without demanding anything in return, without expecting gratitude and applause. And if this woman really wanted her stepson to be happy, she wouldn’t have tried to change him to the detriment of his essence,” Irina concludes.
Some commenters even urge the author to go further and abandon his middle name, associated with his stepmom’s father. “If you want to be extra petty, when you turn 18, change your middle name to something different. Drop James completely,” another person added sarcastically. But this, in our opinion, would be too much… So what do you, our dear readers, think?
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