Losing a person close to you is never a fun thing, especially when it’s too early for them to go. Moments like these are the hardest, and they’re exactly when we need all of the support that we can get.
However, some people would rather take care of their own ego first than be there for the ones in need. For example, one Redditor shared how, when her mom wassickwith cancer, her dad was never around. When the mom passed, and he quickly moved in with his new wife and child, the girl found out that the dad was outcheatingthe whole time when she and her mom needed him the most. Needless to say, she was not very happy about it. Scroll down to read the full story!
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Some people promise to be there for their partner in sickness and in health but bail the moment real sickness shows up at the doorstep
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A teen lived with her dad, who had his new wife and their child move in soon after the girl’s mom passed away from cancer she had battled for 3 years
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The woman came into the home as if she had lived there for years, trying to order things around and wanting to get rid of the mother’s old things that the girl didn’t want to let go of yet
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After learning about the trip that the teen had planned with her mom but now was supposed to go on with her aunt, the stepmom decided to take over the planning
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She said that she should go with the girl instead of her aunt, as it would be a great opportunity for them to bond since she’s her new mom, and the dad supported her
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The 17-year-old OP’s mom passed away after battlingcancerfor 3 years when the daughter was 16, and she now lives with her dad. The parents were in the process of getting adivorce, but the girl was never aware of the reasons for it.
The girl didn’t want to let go of her mom’s things just yet, but there was more than just nostalgia in there. When digging through all of it, she found evidence that her mother hired a private investigator, who discovered that the father had been cheating for almost 6 years, and his new wife’s child was also his own.
Hearing this, the father was upset, so she let it rip on him, too. She told him that his new wife, who is a 25-year-old while he’s 46, is young enough to be her sister. She also bashed him for doing this to her mom while she was battling cancer. He blew right back at her, ordering her to take herstepmotheron the trip, but the girl stood her ground.
The commenters were very supportive of the OP, expressing their condolences for her mother and berating her dad as well as his wife. They also shared advice in regards to ensuring that her plans for the trip couldn’t be disrupted and that her mother’s things would not be thrown away while she was gone.
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Cheating on your terminally ill spouse, as the poster’s father did, seems like a horrible thing to do. But, asJeanna Bryner of NBC Newswrote, it turns out that it is actually a lot more common than people might think.
A study looking at relationships where one of the partners had cancer or multiple sclerosis discovered that roughly 12% of these marriages end in divorce, making for a pretty normal number. However, the more shocking part was that while only 3% of women leave their sick partners, almost 21% of men don’t hesitate to walk out when the situation is reversed.
The researchers theorized that a good part of it is self-preservation. Women usually find it easier to assume the responsibility of caregivers, while men, on the other hand, tend to feel less codependent and will more often choose to take care of themselves first.
Yet, according to the same research, staying together can actually boost the chance of the person beating the illness. Patients who don’t get divorced have a much lower hospitalization rate and are more likely to participate in clinical trials, complete their treatment regimens, and seek alternative treatments.
Of course, being a caregiver in a situation like this is very difficult, too. Nothing anyone says or does could make this an easy process, but, asPsychCentralshared, there are some things that we can do to try and make it just a little bit better:
In the end, having a person close to you be diagnosed with a terminal illness can be absolutely life-changing. But it is in crises like these that people usually show their true faces, and sometimes, like the OP’s father’s, the face they’re hiding is not the prettiest.
The commenters supported the poster, giving her advice on how to make sure they don’t hold her back from going on the trip or don’t throw away her mom’s stuff while she’s away
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