Among the many cynical but often damn truthful pieces of advice that I’ve ever heard or read, there was this:“every initiative is punishable.”And indeed, as soon as one of us takes an initiative in any matter, it instantly becomes our “inalienable duty” in the eyes of others.
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The author of the post is a 16-year-old boy who discovered his talent for cooking several years ago
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The boy tried to cook breakfast and so on for himself first, but then his relatives literally forced him to cook for the entire family
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Moreover, each of them turned out to be incredibly whimsical and not so grateful
The boy tried to vent about it to his mom but she just said it’s the fate of every home cook
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And when the teen tried to revolt against this burden, he was dubbed ‘rude’ and even got grounded for 2 weeks
And that’s it – very little time passed, and our hero began to be perceived as a full-time cook in the family. Moreover, in the best traditions of family manipulation, the OP’s dad told his son that cooking only for himself is ‘rude.’ And then the culinary drama unfolded rapidly…
It turned out that each of thefamily membershad their own food preferences, and they didn’t hesitate to actively express their wishes and whims to the newly minted ‘chef.’ And when he cooked something that didn’t suit their taste, they also did not hesitate to loudly express their complaints. And, of course, without any special thanks to the boy.
The OP was trying to create some kind of a menu for the week, desperately attempting to please everyone, and at the same time not fall behind in his studies (after all, no one canceled school for him!), but every day it became worse, and the whims of his relatives turned out to be increasingly bizarre.
The guy tried to complain to his mom, but she philosophically and thoughtfully noted that such is the fate of everyone who undertakes to cook for the whole family. The son tried to reasonably argue that he didn’t volunteer to do this – he was actually forced, but to no avail. Apparently, this decent woman was so glad that there was someone on whom to shift the burden of cooking that she was actually deaf to the sufferings of her own son.
Moreover, when just recently the teen tried to rebel, saying that he didn’t volunteer to cook for all these folks, he was immediately labeled ‘rude’ and ‘disrespectful,’ and was almost accused of trying to starve his relatives (like ordering pizza is that difficult and beyond human strength!..) and he ended up being grounded for 2 weeks.Every initiative is punishable…
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Well, I can immediately say that the original poster is far from alone in his problem, and many of the heroes of our stories have faced something similar more than once. For example, this woman oncegot tiredof hosting holidays for all relatives and went to the beach instead of gathering everyone at her home for Thanksgiving. It all ended with predictable condemnation from relatives.
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