First dates are much like job interviews, where you are juggling multiple tasks, from trying to present yourself well, to being charming and interesting, all with the added layer of difficulty that comes from trying to assess if you are actually interested in the person. But some people seem to be living in their own world, blind and clueless about the consequences of one action or another.
There is no standard first date, but a few rules tend to always apply
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Dating norms can be hard to keep track of
Naturally, as a social lubricant or liquid courage, alcohol is a very commonplace element on any first date. The “politics” of drinks might muddy the waters here, as sending a drink over is a common, almost cliche way to inquire about availability. While it can be easy to overstate or even understate the signals and significance of a sent-over-drink, it’s somewhat weird that OP seemed so surprised at her date’s reaction. For the sake of an argument, we can accept her explanation at face value, however, she does give some indication that she just wanted to down a few drinks before going out, as she herself called the date “a cool pre-game before I met up with my friends.”
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OP’s date could benefit from a little more confidence
If anything, the date should have perhaps seen the silver lining, as studies of alcohol use on dates, particularly first dates, indicate that it tends tohelp with anxietyand lead to more desirable outcomes. The same study did find that women sometimes worry about being misunderstood when it comes to drinking on a first date, but this does not seem to be an issue for OP. But instead of just moving past what was ostensibly a free drink for his date, this guy decided to throw a fit and leave. Now, that is his prerogative, if it’s a line he doesn’t want to see crossed, then it’s probably best that this doesn’t go to a second date.
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OP answered some questions and defended her position
Many readers, however, thought she was in the wrong
But some saw her point
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