Franz Kafka, a surreal fiction novelist, once said, “First impressions are always unreliable.” It does ring a truth bell because exactly pinpointing what kind of a person someone is on the first go can’t be as easy as it’s shown in detective stories. But it can surely be up for debate as some people are pretty transparent so it’s easy to figure them out.
The original poster (OP) also felt that she was able to figure out her brother’s girlfriend as “rude” from her first impression. Even the othersisterfelt the same, so they were contemplating whether to tell their brother or not.
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Even if first impressions are unreliable, sometimes people are quite easy to read from their actions
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The poster’s brother introduced his girlfriend to the poster and their sister, but they both felt that she was rude and completely different from what he had described
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The girlfriend had introduced the brother to her mom and also pushed him to introduce her to his family, and in their culture, meeting the parents meant marriage
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They were wondering whether to tell him that they didn’t like her as it would create a difficult situation if the couple indeed got married
Today’s story is about two sisters caught in a fix about their brother’s girlfriend. The poster gives us a little background that in their culture, a couple would date without informing theirparentsuntil they were ready to be married. Basically, introducing your partner to your parents meant marriage!
Recently, the poster’s brother introduced his girlfriend to the family and thesiblingshad planned to meet her for the first time. Well, it was natural for the girlfriend to feel nervous as there was so much pressure, so OP tried to keep things casual so that she would feel relaxed. But as the night progressed, the poster and her sister found the girlfriend to be quite rude.
The poster also tells us that thecouplehad only dated for 8 months and the girl had pushed him into introducing her to the family. And now, he was stressed out when everyone was talking about things related to marriage. That’s why the sisters also felt that his heart was not in it.
They didn’t know what to do because things could go both ways if they said they didn’t like her. If he went ahead with themarriage, things would be awkward between them. Or, it could result in them breaking up. Feeling super confused, the poster vented online and sought advice from netizens.
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The story sparked a debate among netizens as some sympathized with the poster, while others were unhappy about how she judged the girlfriend right at the first meeting. The folks who sided with OP said that they understood what a tricky situation she was caught in. Because if she revealed how she felt about the girlfriend, it might affect their relationship.
Researchalso indicates that disapproval from family and friends generally tends to hurt relationship satisfaction, quality, and outcomes. It’s evident that the sisters might end up ruining the couple’s relationship. People advised OP to ask her brother about how he was feeling about the whole situation, gauge his reaction, and only then gently express how she felt about the girl.
Netizens were divided in their opinions as some claimed that she was in a tricky situation while others felt that she shouldn’t judge the girl from her first impression
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