In life, we all have our fair share ofembarrassing moments. But how they affect us depends entirely on how we choose to deal with them.
For thisRedditor, that choice wasn’t so easy. They recently hosted a friend for a few nights, and everything seemed fine—until after the visit, when they noticed something unusual. The $1,500 couch their guest had slept on was broken. A real pity, to say the least.
Now, they’re stuck wondering: should they ask her to pay for the damage, or is that price too high to risk their friendship?
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A woman stayed at her friend’s house for a few nights and accidentally broke their $1,500 couch
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Now, the host is left wondering: should they ask her to pay, or is that price too high to risk their friendship?
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How to have “difficult” conversations
This situation is undoubtedly an uncomfortable one. The host is upset about their expensive couch. The friend feels terrible for breaking it. Neither of them wanted this to happen. Yet it seems that some kind of conversation is necessary to clear the air.
These discussions are often labeled as “difficult,” but psychotherapist and retired palliative care physicianDr. Kathryn Mannixprefers a different term: “tender.” With decades of experience supporting patients andfamiliesthrough the complexities of incurable illnesses, Dr. Mannix has a deep understanding of how to manage strained interactions. She shares more about this in her bookListen: How to Find the Words for Tender Conversations.
Of course, talking about a broken couch is far from the weight of discussing a terminal illness. Still, Dr. Mannix’s insights offer guidance that applies to many scenarios—“not just about end-of-life conversations, but about all those conversations that we feel a bit daunted about.”
The word “tender” resonates because it conveys empathy and acknowledges the vulnerability in both yourself and the person you’re speaking with. “It’s about being intentionally, fully present,” Dr. Mannix told Dr. Brian Goldman, host of CBC Radio One’sWhite Coat, Black Art.
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The author shared in the replies that the friend knew about the damage but didn’t admit it out of shame
Many readers felt that asking her to pay might ruin the friendship and wasn’t worth it
Others, however, insisted that she should take responsibility and compensate for the couch
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