Having free will is amazing. You candecidewhat career you want to pursue, who you want to spend your life with, where you want to settle down, or choose not to settle down at all! But with great power comes great responsibility, and sadly, we sometimes make choices that we can never take back.
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My younger brother broke up with a girl he liked…because she farted in her sleep.He was telling my older brother and I that he was in the midst of a miserable dry spell. And how he’d been seeing a girl he liked but then she farted in her sleep and he was so grossed out because “there are some things you don’t need to see your SO doing. It just felt like the mystery was gone.”My older bro was like “yeah, cause that’s what the mystery was about, farting.”I called younger bro a “fg moron” and older bro was like “you’re half right.”EDIT: When he said “you’re half right” he meant my younger brother may be a moron, but he ain’t fg.
Meeeee! I was so f*****g in love with this man, but I have a drinking problem (I don’t get sloppy, or mean, most people can’t even tell, but it affects my health)He told me if he found another hidden bottle squirreled away, we were done.But… we were going up to visit his family for a month. I REALLY wanted his family to love me, and I’m MUCH more bubbly and personable when I drink.So…. Naturally, he found a hidden bottle, while we were on the trip. Promptly dumped me.I wanted his family to love me SO BAD, because I wanted to be part of that family forever…. And instead, I lost it all.Alcohol is the devil, kids.
My best friend and hetro-lifemate. Early 30s w/ wife. kids. great job and lots of friends. He was always looking for inventive ways to party. He figured out that you could order dried poppy pods online, grind them up and make poppy tea. This stuff is STRONG. 4/6 ounces will have you floating on a cloud for 24 hrs. Dosages kept going up over the next 10 yrs. until he couldn’t physically drink enough fluid to maintain his habit. Lost his wife, kids and then his 3rd generation family business job.Then he switch to h****n. Living in a half million dollar home with no power or water. Junkies everywhere. When he OD’ed, they stuffed his body in a closet for 3 days so they could burn through his credit and debit cards before reporting it to the police. Now his family is fighting squatters who have destroyed his home. I miss him everyday/.
I had a very close friend whose wife, out of the blue, suddenly asked to open the marriage. This friend hated the idea but said yes anyway. Result: divorce, messy and angry and messing up all three of their kids.The point of contention was that he wound up finding a very compatible side-partner himself and his wife apparently was shocked to discover he was swinging just as happily as she was. Apparently her expectation was that he’d never be able to find a girlfriend so she (the wife) would have her side-piece and her husband all to herself. Wife was jealous, and angry, and eventually demanded they un-open the marriage because she didn’t like him being with other partners while she was with other partners. Thankfully at this point he finally saw things for what they are and they divorced. Wrecked his life for years, though.Moral of the story: polygamy is complicated and not something to rush into just because you’ve hit your midlife crisis. Also don’t agree to open your damn marriage if you don’t really want that.
One of my former friends from college worked as an analyst for a pretty big investment bank. He did NOT handle covid and isolation well and got really into conspiracy theories and became a straight up racist. When he returned to office he refused to work with anyone with dark skin, muslims or women he deemed inferior to his intellect. This did not go well with his boss who was a second generation somali immigrant, and a muslim, and a woman….. he was fired and he still doesnt have found another job in the same League.
Friend of a friend got caught in one of those “to catch a predator” style stings. Was messaging with what he thought was a 14 year old and tried to meet up to have sex.Lost his wife, all his friends, his apprenticeship, and spent the next several years in prison.
Some guy at work was caught red handed stealing airpods from the locker room. When he was sent to pick up his own kit before being sent home he excused himself to go to the toilet, and took a s**t on the floor.The kicker is that we work on an oil rig. It’s impossible to get away with theft, and he was a senior technician making really good money. He didn’t need the airpods he was just stealing for the fun of it.He’s now “not required back”, and all the companies talk to each other. He sh*t away his career over a pair of airpods.
My neighbor across the street had 4 kids in 6 years with a boyfriend in an attempt to get him to stick around/pay attention to her. Now she’s single and living with her mom and grandma is raising the kids alone while she goes out and tries to find a new boyfriend. Is having a boyfriend really worth ruining your life?
Recent example, guy was a doctor and now cannot work because he hit his wife while they were getting divorcedI don’t know the specifics of it but the domestic violence offence on his record is prohibiting him from working in medicine.
Co-worker was addicted to Starbucks cold coffee drinks that you buy at a convenience store. She drank 4 per day, everyday.Smoked , too.Would spend $250.00 on up for store products, and that’s with a 50% discount ( crystal shop)Got herself dug into a hole and couldn’t make her house payment. I actually watched her deliberate on whether to buy something at work ( retail therapy she called it) or make her house payment.I added up the cost of Starbucks alone was $500.00 per month - I was trying to help her.Her house was foreclosed on in December all because she wouldn’t stop the Starbucks and the “retail therapy “ spending.Now she homeless.
This is relatively mild, but it’s still pretty sad.My mom is pretty isolated socially. She lives near me and for years her main source of interaction with other humans was me and my kids. She was emotionally abusive when I was a kid and was doing better for a few years, but then was ramping up the abuse again. I went no contact for several months, then had a sit down with her and discussed what abusive behaviors needed to stop for us to continue our relationship. She agreed.It lasted two years. She started ramping up the abuse again and then she put my kids and my immunocompromised niece at risk during the pandemic. My husband and I told her that she needed to adjust her behavior and acknowledge that her behavior wasn’t okay. She used her usual manipulation tactics (a fake “medical emergency” that my husband took her to the hospital for) and when we didn’t immediately forget everything that happened, she called the police for a welfare check on my kids.We haven’t spoken to her in nearly three years and they have been the happiest years of my life. She now has no one locally. My brother had already distanced himself (he lives several hours away) and she’s not even getting attention when she goes to the hospital, because my SIL is now helping her manage everything and will only talk to the doctors about her health issues, not my mom. I hope being abusive and selfish was worth her loneliness now.
It’s really sad but my cousin had a stillborn when she was young and got into hard ds to cope. Now she has 6 kids that she has no custody over, has been imprisoned multiple times, has fines she can’t pay, and can’t get a job above minimum wage.I’m the only one in the family who doesn’t blame her for relapsing time and time again because I can’t imagine the horror of sobering up and realizing you threw your entire life away before 35 and had no chance of ever getting it back. The rest of the family doesn’t understand that being an adult and working two full time jobs at minimum wage to barely make ends meet isn’t a life worth living sober, especially knowing all your kids are out there in someone else’s care and seeing them in bad situations too.Idk which would hurt worse tbh, knowing that most of them hate you, or knowing that some of them look up to you even though you’ve royally f*d up both your own life and all the kids.
My husbands friend. Had a beautiful wife, gorgeous house, 2 lovely boys, a job he loved and lots of great friends who loved him. Then he decided at the age of 35 to get into hard ds. He has been in and out of prison for violent crimes, transportation of large volumes of hn, attempted m***r, burglary and stalking…He is homeless again as he burned down his flat on purpose to get a move. No one will ever talk to him again. He’s now 55 and has nothing, his wife divorced him after giving him far too many chances, his sons hate him, his real friends gone for ever. All for nothing.
This kid I went to college with was in the Army Reserves making really good grades, and his parents were really well off. The kid’s life was set. Got an allowance every month from his parents, had a nice brand new car for school, lived in a nice apartment right off campus and he had so much going for him. He didn’t even have to work, just do his monthly reserve days which were like 3 days a month. So set for life.To shorten the story a bit, he got caught at a random UA (dg test) for ce. He got lucky and the Army gave him a second chance. Not even 5 months later he got caught AGAIN for c**e and weed. He somehow got lucky, again, and they just kicked him out in an “Other than Honorable” discharge. Parents pulled his funding and he had to get a minimum wage job at a sandwich shop.Never saw him again until he randomly popped up on my Facebook about a year later. I hit him up to see how he was. Up and moved halfway across the U.S. with this girl he got pregnant and they were both working at Walmart barely affording rent. He sold his BMW to pocket the move up there. He also looked….rough, to say the least in a lot of his pictures.
Watching someone you love not take care of their diabetes. It’s torture.
My buddy Steve was the poster child for ‘has it all.’ Good career, amazing wife, cute house. Then, the model trains happened. Not little setups…this guy took over the whole basement, then the garage. His wife went from amused to livid. Arguments turned into screaming matches. She eventually left, and Steve, in his model train bliss, barely noticed. The twist? He inherited a ton of money…and spent it all on antique train sets. Eventually though, he noticed….and no model could cure the blues of losing his incredible wife.
I girl I know/used to work with decided to jump on the only fans bandwagon. Went all in doing all sort of things on camera. Well the truth is, only the top 1% of OF creators make alot of money and the average one makes $200 a month. If you don’t start with a big social following it’s an uphill battle.Anyway some people in her town (not super tiny population 120k) saw the account, someone posted the pics of her on Facebook and basically everyone found out. Including her parents.So after not making much money and photos that will forever be on the internet, she packed it all in to go back to kindergarten teaching. But being in a country town no one would give her a job and people would stare at her wherever she went.She had to move to the city, and she has a job now. I just hope her new employer doesn’t google image search her 😬But yeah she really regrets it, could have made more money doing Uber eats on the weekend.
I’m an alcoholic/addict. I’m in recovery but, I can barely leave the the house, I can’t hold a job, I have cut off all but five people in my life…I’m a mess.
Back in the 90s, a classmate of mine was way into computers. He was offered a really well paid job in the US, we were in the UK, straight out of school. Incredible benefits. Invaluable training opportunities. In in the ground floor at the best possible time. Lost it because he used the free airline tickets the company gave him so family could visit, to fly his friends out. Then lied about it. He was a notorious liar all through school. What an opportunity. What a c**t.
My uncle was an ambitextrous baseball pitcher in highschool. Absurdly good at it. He could have gotten an athletic scholasrhip, gone to college, maybe gone pro.His dad died, he got into ds, and now he’s a h*n addict in and out of prison.
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I know plenty of guys who had kids with the wrong person.I don’t think people quite realise the negative impact on your life this can have.
My brother was offered a really well-paying job doing something he’s excellent at. He thought it would be too easy, so he chose a much more challenging job in a less appealing environment with a boss who is a real jerk. He hoped to impress him. Now, he’s really unhappy. I just don’t understand why he puts himself through this kind of thing.
A former classmate of mine pursued medicine even though she didn’t want it, her parents was a big factor of this decision. She was into music and I’d have to say she was great & really passionate doing it, her parents wasn’t just supportive. During college she failed almost every subjects and then eventually dropped out. The last time I heard she left home and is living with her bf now. Its just unfortunate she wasn’t able to take the path that she loves. F**k the parents honestly for pressuring her. I think she would’ve been happier if she pushed through music. I don’t blame her though maybe she didn' t have a choice. Sometimes we have to disappoint our parents a little bit to be happy.
Friend who got married because he didn’t want to break it off and thought he would just be better off, he’s dying a slow death.
One of my buddies actually ditched a six-figure job because he didn’t trust his girlfriend not to cheat on him while he was at work. He’s a good guy, but when it comes to women, he can be a real dummy sometimes. It’s pretty crazy, right?.
My best friend’s ex-wife. He was the most loving husband who doted on her and gave her everything. They wanted to start a family. His family was also very accepting of her. She was a councillor who decided to cheat on him with one of her patients… not once, not twice, but three times. My friend finally saw the light and divorced her.He’s now remarried to a fantastic woman who appreciates him as much as he does her and they just had their first child. I don’t know what the ex-wife is doing now but I hope she knows what she threw away one day.
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One of my closest childhood friends. We’re all well into adulthood now and he had been sober from alcohol for years, had his own plumbing business, kids, a fiancee. Typical american dream stuff.During the pandemic he basically snapped, starting drinking again which quickly turned into doing m**h and now he’s a missing person on the streets of Portland somewhere. Just sad and I feel like I’m going to hear he’s OD’d since there’s fentanyl in everything here and there’s nothing any of us can do about it. He’s intensely stubborn and won’t listen to anyone and he doesn’t seem to care.
I have an ex- SIL who has been a drunk for years. She was an attractive, fiercely intelligent, really cool, fun person who had mental health issues that were ignored for years. Eventually, she got that part under control, and became a mental health professional. I think she probably is very good at it, but she’s on a downward spiral. Her drinking is worse than ever. She has had two DWIs. I won’t let my kids go anywhere with her anymore because she drives drunk with them, or tries to get them to drive so she can drink. She got pulled over once and handed her weed and vaping pen to my kid and said “Here, take this. I can’t be caught with it.” She cancels her appointments with her clients constantly. I know one person who was seeing her and they believe she was drunk during their sessions. I know somebody else whose mother works with her, and my friend is scared for her mother’s safety as my ex-SIL has a history of being violent and assaulting people (never been to jail for it) and trying to get her to take benzodiazepines that she has. She is single as far as I know, and all her boyfriends have either been dumb guys and losers who don’t deserve her, or abusive bullies that walk all over her. I have cut her off entirely, but I feel terrible for her.
Probably me when I was younger, I spent my ENTIRE teenage years alone because I gave up easily. Because I was scared of everything.I didn’t have friends, love, dances etc.I seriously was absolutely lifeless inside.
Me, just living and making wrong decisions all of the f*****g time.
My husband cheated with an ugly, married coworker. I discovered their affair while we were on our FAMILY Vacation to New Orleans. We were there for our family’s 4th trip there for the Jazz Festival. It was the 50th Anniversary of the Jazz Fest. Our family had been looking forward to it for 6 months. Then we flew down there, arriving at midnight or so. I was still the unknowing wife.Next morning, May 1st 2019. I discover the affair because of his distracted ( not really there with us vibe), and his cell phone use. That night I went into the phone and found out everything. I took photos and videos.We got home, I confronted him, he denied denied denied. I showed our family the proof.
My older sister who is 32 just, refuses to work. She lives with our grandma and is absolutely miserable because she has zero autonomy (grandma rides her a*s when she leaves the house etc, her decorating choices are confined to one single room, etc), yet she refuses to make any moves because “people in other countries live with their family as adults.” We suggest therapy, she’s not interested, says she can be her own therapist. She’s too good for a job in retail or call center (I work retail), but refuses to do any kind of schooling. She makes her own misery. The most she has in regards to disability is depression, which I understand, but she refuses help or to try any changes.
Our daughter is 25. Every few years she just randomly blows up her life. Tells us not to call/talk to her, cuts off her real friends and makes them hate her. Ends up calling us months later because she’s out of options/friends.She’s currently living with us, rent free, no job, but has some plan on moving south with randos from the internet. Can’t talk to her without her getting angry. We don’t know what to do. It’s so unsafe.She had a good job a year ago. Had a nice 2 bedroom apartment, a great friend who picked her up for work everyday.
My sister is currently in an abusive relationship with a man twice her age. He tracks her messages and refuses for her to see her friends, accuses her of cheating, convinced her to quit her job so she relies on him for everything. But she can’t leave him because she loves him.
Guy blew all his cash on gambling. Lost family, home, everything. Tragic, man.
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