Knowing the truth about something can be very powerful and risky, especially when those around you are unsuspecting. So what does one do in a situation when they are privy to information that could cause some serious damage?

Today’s Original Poster (OP) knew their roommate had HIV and couldn’t keep quiet when a guy showed up to spend the night with their roommate. Disclosing her status didn’t sit well with the roommate, ultimately leading to their fallout.

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Two women arguing near a window, conveying tension over HIV status disclosure affecting reputation.

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The author’s roommate had told her that she tested positive for HIV and was going to have a guy spend the night

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Two people sitting on a couch, looking upset, discussing a serious topic related to HIV status and reputation.

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They tried to talk the roommate out of it and also asked her to let the guy know, but she refused, so they went ahead to tell him instead

Netizens saw nothing wrong with what the author did, pointing out that it would have been criminal if she didn’t mention it to the guy

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Roommate Loses It After Friend Warns Her Date About HIV Diagnosis

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In an update, the roommate revealed that the guy ghosted her due to what he knew and accused the author of ruining her reputation

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Text conversation between roommates about friend revealing HIV status, damaging reputation, and causing conflict.

Chat between roommates about reputation, with one upset over a friend revealing another’s HIV status to a date.

They apologized, but maintained that the guy had the right to know, and that she wasn’t going about it the right way

The OP’s friend announced that she was having a guy over for the night right before telling them that she recently tested positive forHIV. Naturally, the OP was concerned and tried to talk her out of it, but the friend brushed it off. They then asked her to inform the guy at the very least, but she refused to do so.

The guy then showed up while thefriendwas in the shower, so the OP pulled him aside to let him know the situation. He listened but stayed for dinner and also watchedmovieswith the OP’s friend.

Two women having a heated discussion in a kitchen, reflecting tension over revealed HIV status and damaged reputation.

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“Everyone has the right to know their partner’s HIV status, and couples are encouraged to get tested together before getting intimate,” she affirmed, hinting that the OP was not wrong. She also suggested that regular testing is especially important in cases ofinfidelityor multiple partners, and condom use is highly recommended to prevent transmission.

Given the stigma around HIV, we asked Uukule how the outlook for individuals has changed with advancements in treatment. She explained that antiretroviral therapy (ARV) has turned HIV from a fatal condition into a manageable chronic illness. In the past, an HIV diagnosis was a death sentence, but today, she noted, “individuals can live long, healthy lives if they adhere to treatment.”

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She went further to explain that while there is still no cure, proper medical management has significantly reduced HIV-related deaths. “The key factor remains adherence,” she highlighted. Those who consistently follow their treatment plans experience much better outcomes, highlighting the importance of health education and regular medication use.

We then asked for the steps that those who are HIV positive should take to ensure their partner’s safety during intimacy, to which she responded, “For individuals living with HIV, it all starts with strict adherence to treatment.” She mentioned that antiretroviral therapy (ART) can suppress the virus to undetectable levels and significantly reduce transmission risk.

She recommended joint counseling at healthcarefacilitiesfor education and guidance. Using condoms remains essential, and medical advice should be sought when planning to conceive. “PrEPis around 90% highly effective in preventing HIV transmission when taken correctly, offering an additional layer of protection,” she added.

Do you think the OP was right to step in, or should they have stayed out of it? We would love to hear your thoughts!

Netizens maintained that they were right for telling the guy

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