Familycan turn Christmas from merry to messy in the blink of an eye, and Reddit userGMEm8m3loosemymindknows this all too well.

After reconciling with a difficult relative, the woman said she went all out for the holidays and gifted them a dream vacation.

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But this woman’s thoughtful holiday gesture turned sour due to the recipient’s ungrateful behavior

Text about a family member forgetting a Christmas present leading to a cancelled vacation.

Text discussing passive-aggressive remarks, hosting, and a canceled vacation.

A woman in casual clothing looking at a laptop, contemplating holiday plans and gift decisions for Christmas.

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Nowadays, people enjoy practical gifts

Person securing luggage on car roof for vacation, outdoors.

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While it may not seem like the most romantic option, money was the most desired Christmas present in the United States this year. According tothe latest datafrom Statista’s Consumer Insights, when asked which gifts American adults would personally like to receive, 45 percent of women and 34 percent of men said cash or bank transfers.

While there was a fair bit of overlap when looking at the breakdown of the data for men and women, some slight differences did emerge. For example, cosmetics, perfume, and body care ranked as the fourth most popular option among women (27 percent), while it came only in 13th place out of the possible 20 options for men (12 percent).

Regardless if the thing that the author of the post received belongs to the list or not, spending money on others does bring happiness to us—psychologists have confirmed that the warm glow of kindness, the feel-good rush after being kind to others, is real.

For example, a 2019studyhighlights that people who give benefit regardless of whether they gain something from gifting others.

“There is a decent amount of research showing that the act of giving actually makes us feel better,”explainedJessica Andrews-Hanna, an associate professor in the Department of Psychology, in the College of Science at the University of Arizona.

“Evidence from brain imaging also suggests that both giving gifts and receiving gifts activate core areas of our brain associated with reward and pleasure. These brain regions also stimulate the neurotransmitter dopamine. All in all, psychology and neuroscience suggest that giving gifts to other people can be a very rewarding phenomenon that can bring happiness to ourselves and others.”

So, since the woman felt like she needed to cancel the booking, the relative’s behavior must’ve been pretty bad.

As the story went viral, people shared a lot of reactions to it

Online discussion about a forgotten Christmas gift leading to a canceled vacation.

Discussion on family dynamics over a Christmas present and a canceled vacation.

A relative forgets a Christmas present for the host, resulting in a canceled gifted vacation as described in a story.

A comment criticizing a relative for forgetting a host’s Christmas gift, suggesting canceling their gifted vacation.

Comment questioning gifting a vacation to someone they don’t care for, related to Christmas present expectations.

Reddit comment discussing consequences for forgetting a Christmas present for the host.

A Reddit comment about forgetting a Christmas present, with a recommendation for future questioning about a trip.

Comment about gifts not being transactional, posted by BadSanna, 19 points, 3 days ago.

Text screenshot about a family member forgetting a Christmas present and a cancelled vacation.

Reddit comment discussing a relative forgetting a Christmas present for the host.

Text screenshot from Ok-Sir6601 about forgetting Christmas gift for host.

Reddit comment discussing holiday gifting and financial pressures.

Comment about gifting vacations, expressing surprise and frustration over extravagant gifts.

Comment suggesting giving an empty gift card with $500 written on it after vacation gift is cancelled.

Reddit comment questioning forgetting to bring a Christmas gift for the host.

Text comment about gifting a “free” timeshare vacation, related to a canceled holiday gift.

Reddit comment discussing a relative forgetting a Christmas present, suggesting canceling only return flights.

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