Have you ever been at a gathering where someone orders food for everyone—well, except for you? It’s one thing to be casually left out, but imagine it happening during an ICU visit when your sibling’s life is on the line. Suddenly, being the only one without fries might start to feel a lot less funny, and a tad hurtful.

For today’s Original Poster (OP), it wasn’t just a minor inconvenience. No, it actually sparked a full-blown family feud. And it all began with food.

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Customer paying with card at a café counter, depicting an added fee situation.

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The author’s youngest brother repeatedly brought food for other family members during their brother’s ICU stay, but intentionally excluded the OP and her sister

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A variety of gourmet meals on a table, including pizzas, salads, and desserts, reflecting a shared dining experience.

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At the celebration of life, her brother ordered an additional gluten-free pizza and charged it to the author’s bill without asking

The OP asked him to pay for the extra $20 pizza he added to her bill, and that led to him shoving her and storming off

It started when the OP hardly left the side of her brother in theICU. During that difficult period, their youngest brother would come around. He would bring Starbucks and Culvers for everyone except the OP and their younger sister.

According to what she heard, the OP’s brother specifically didn’t want to buy anything for them, and had requested that they shouldn’t know he was ordering for others. It’s not exactly the sibling love you dream of in a family crisis; however, this was the genesis.

After their brother passed, the OP decided to organize a casualcelebrationof life at a pub. She put money on a bar tab and ordered pizzas for everyone. Her brother arrived with his girlfriend who is gluten-intolerant, and the OP did well to order a gluten-free pizza for her.

Shortly after, the OP’s brother ordered a second gluten-free pizza with different toppings, and then slapped it right onto her bill without mentioning it to her.

Now, the OP didn’t have a lot of money, and so she was upset when she found out. But considering the fact that her brother had also intentionally left her out when ordering food for everyone at the hospital, she was even more upset.

She asked him to cover the secondpizza, which cost $20, and that was when things exploded. The OP’s brother got annoyed, stormed off, and thereafter accused the OP of disrespecting his girlfriend. The two have not spoken since the incident.

Two people sitting and examining restaurant receipts, discussing additional charges.

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Furthermore, asChoosing Therapyhas pointed out, entitlement also happens because “parents make rules for the oldest children and bend the rules for the youngest” such that younger siblings may have difficulty accepting responsibility ordisciplinefor their actions.

According to them, this often leads to a person shying away from taking responsibility for their actions, ultimately resulting in conflict in familial relations, and this happened in the case of the OP’s brother—the expectation that his sister should just pay the surpluscostand getting angry when asked to take responsibility for what he ordered.

Wanting to know if she was a jerk for being upset and refusing to cover her brother’s extra pizza order, the OP turned to netizens. They largely expressed support for the OP, stating that she wasn’t in the wrong.

What would you have done in this situation? Would you have covered the extra pizza or stood your ground like the OP?

Netizens rallied around the author and declared that she is not the jerk; however, they affirmed her brother is a jerk with entitlement issues

Discussion about a brother adding extra fees, with a sister’s response.

Text exchange about sympathy for passed brother, points visible, no names shown in a Reddit-style layout.

Reddit comment thread discussing a privileged brother charging extra fees to his sister.

Reddit comment exchange about a privileged brother’s behavior and being the family “baby.

Comment discussing a gluten-free diet and expressing gratitude for considerate catering at events.

Person using a touchscreen to add extra fee to a sibling’s meal bill, highlighting privileged family dynamics.

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Reddit comment discussing a financial disagreement involving a privileged brother and his sister.

Reddit comment questioning brother’s responsibility for celebrating life bill.

Reddit comment discussing someone eating two pizzas in the context of adding extra fee.

Online comment criticizing privileged brother for extra fee.

Comment discussing a brother’s entitled behavior over meal expenses.

Comment criticizing entitled brother regarding extra fee added to sister’s bill.

Comment humorously referring to “26” in a post about a brother charging extra fees.

Comment questioning meal size at a funeral with sarcastic tone.

Screenshot of a comment discussing a privileged brother adding a fee to a sister’s bill and a response advising self-reflection.

Text exchange discussing a sibling’s loss, empathy, and a situation involving a privileged brother and meal costs.

Reddit comment discussing a brother’s entitlement over a bill disagreement.

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