Being amomis a painful yet wonderful moment. All the new things that you get to experience right from the pregnancy to the delivery can be quite phenomenal as you bring a tiny human into this world. And if someone keeps dampening it for you, some people prefer to keep distance from such a person.
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The poster of this story is 29 weeks pregnant while her sister-in-law, Jane, has had fertility issues for over a decade
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One day, when the family visited the poster, they were checking out the nursery and talking about babies, all of which was too much for Jane, leading to a tearful breakdown
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Jane said that they all talk about babies now that the poster is pregnant and felt that her mother-in-law treats her differently due to her infertility
She also went on a rant about how they just talk about babies now that OP ispregnantand she felt excluded from everything. She also felt that her mother-in-law didn’t treat her properly because of her infertility. Her response does draw empathy because her situation is tough.
She has been contemplating uninviting her altogether. But her mom says that she shouldn’t do that as Jane is family and they need to support her rather than exclude her more. Probably feeling confused about what to do in the situation, she vented online and asked Redditors whether it would be wrong to uninvite Jane.
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Studieshave shown that infertile couples experience significant anxiety and emotional distress. When a round of fertility treatments proves to be unsuccessful, for instance, women and couples can experience deep feelings of grief and loss. On top of this, she has already been feeling excluded from the family. People felt that uninviting her would further increase these feelings.
Folks also advised the poster that although kids are a big part of people’s lives, they should also have their own lives and not make everything or every conversation about their kids. They should also have an adults-only event where Jane feels included in their conversations. And they believe that she should talk to Jane about things before directly uninviting her.
As perPsychology Today, “Most parents who care deeply for their children and strive to be good parents will at times struggle with living vicariously through their children. We can also neglect to develop other aspects of our own lives. There are times when the demands of our children make it difficult to have much of a life outside of work and caring for them. However, even in those times, it is important for parents to get a life of their own. In the long run, this will make them better parents.”
Netizens were divided as some felt that the poster was wrong and some didn’t, although most of them advised her to have a proper conversation with Jane before disinviting her
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