One woman got a crash course in this reality when her “I’ll be there no matter what”boyfriendsuddenly hit the brakes after finding out she was pregnant.
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The 2 lovebirds have been dating for just 6 months, and the man always said he would support his girlfriend if she ever got pregnant, but changes his mind once it actually happens
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The OP’s (original poster) boyfriend, who once swore he’d be there 100%, is now humming a different tune. Apparently, he thinks not going through with the pregnancy might be “the best option.”
Naturally, the OP is feeling a little miffed. And who wouldn’t be? She’s only asking for two measly weeks of help post-birth while she recovers from surgery. But now he’s all concerned about being “fair” to his other kids and their mom. Excuse us, but this seems like the perfect moment to pull out the fatherhood card and, you know, reconsider thosevacationdays.
According toexperts, this could be a sign of emotional immaturity. When faced with real-life curveballs like an unplanned pregnancy, some people show their true colors. They might talk a big game about stepping up, but when push comes to shove, their actions (or lack thereof) speak volumes.
Translation: it’s easy to say you’re ready when it’s hypothetical, but when the reality kicks in, it turns out they’re not quite equipped for the heavy lifting.
Trying to understand the reasons behind their change of heart might give you insight into their thoughts and allow them to hear your perspective, which may encourage them to reconsider their stance.
We asked Dr. Greer what advice she would give to a woman whose partner is unwilling to compromise on short-term commitments to help her during a critical time such as childbirth. Greer shared that if your partner refuses to adjust their short-term plans, it may be a good moment to reassess the relationship and ask yourself if this person is dependable enough for a long-term commitment.
“If they can’t show up in the short run, how will they handle challenges in the long run? Life has its speed bumps, and their inflexibility and focus on their own needs rather than yours could indicate an inability to truly consider and prioritize you,” Greer explained.
However, the reality of pregnancy and raising a child can be overwhelming. Sometimes, the excitement of the idea clashes with the actual responsibilities that come with parenthood, leading to second thoughts or fears that cause them to rethink their initial support.
The real question now is, will the mom-to-be tango on solo or will she find a partner who’s ready to dance the whole routine, not just the easy steps? One thing’s for sure—this woman has more than earned the right to be annoyed. Hormones or not, her boyfriend’s response might be the sign she needs to start questioning what kind of future they really have.
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