Teenagers don’t always think through everything they do, which is why they often make dumb decisions. Part of that is due to their underdeveloped prefrontal cortex, the rest might be due to the excitement of being able to makedecisions. But not every choice is a good one and some can have long-lasting consequences.
A mom on Reddit shared her experience with her pregnantteendaughter who not only didn’t understand the full implications of getting pregnant so young, but also seemed to be expecting a bit too much.
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Single mom’s pregnant teen berates her birthday efforts, she feels guilty despite doing everything for the girl
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37YO mom said her 17YO pregnant daughter quit her job during her pregnancy and got pregnant on purpose to live with her deadbeat boyfriend in case she got kicked out
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The last year had been “financially draining” for the mom so she told her son to pick a gift for the girl’s birthday and got her a bouquet of flowers along with dinner and a cake
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Despite all of the support and care she gave her daughter, she overheard the girl complaining to her friend about her “horrible” birthday and the gifts she got
It is estimated that nearly21 million girlsbetween the ages of 15-19 get pregnant every year. According to research, many girls even choose to have a child because of limited educational resources or employment prospects. As the mom shared in her post, she was supporting her daughter through the entire pregnancy. Her teen had quit her job and was even turning down or refusing to follow through with job offers so that she could hang out with her friends.
“But as a young mother you need to balance the advice you get from more experienced parents and your own intuition for your own parenting style, especially if you want to raise a child full of love and confidence. I know how hard it is. She is my first born, there were a lot of trials and errors raising her. The older I get the more I realize that my parents were just as lost and confused when raising me and my siblings. I tell her not to be so hard on herself when raising her son,” she added.
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So she told her son to pick out a gift and said she would get flowers, a cake, and dinner for the girl. But the OP was in for a rude shock when she overheard her daughter complaining about her birthday to her friend. The teen even went so far as to laugh at her brother’s gift and said that she didn’t get anything except flowers from her mom. Netizens were shocked when the poster mentioned that she felt guilty about not getting more things for her daughter.
But the mom explained her reaction, saying, “it’s a lot of guilt on my behalf because when she was younger I worked multiplejobsand was in school getting my Bachelor’s degree. I realize I created this problem and she is fully taking advantage of it.” People felt that the teen should be taking responsibility and contributing financially to which the mom replied, “I’m not working my household budget with her. But her household budget. I’ve been writing down what my expectations are and what my boundaries will be.”
The author also told Bored Panda, “I promised myself that my children’s birthdays would be a special occasion. There was very little celebration in my family growing up surrounding birthdays. My parents would always do a cake (or favorite dessert) for myself and my siblings, but we never had much of a celebration or fanfare surrounding it. I remember going to friend’s birthday parties and being jealous because I knew I wouldn’t get one.”
Netizens could not believe the audacity of the teen despite receiving every manner of support from her mother
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