Every relationship requires effort and trust, but it can be tougher to be a goodpartnerif you already have too much on your plate. After giving birth, when your life has been uprooted and changed drastically, there might be way too much to handle. That’s often when couples have the most fights.
A man shared that he was at his wit’s end and considering separating from his wife after she had givenbirthbecause she kept suspecting him of cheating and eventually ended up assaulting him.
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Man is left heartbroken and pondering divorce after postpartum wife slaps him just because she had the feeling that he might be cheating
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He gave his wife full access to his phone and messages and kept updating her or sending her photos on days he was working late
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One day he had to work on a very stressful project and forgot to update his wife, and when he returned home, she freaked out and slapped him so hard he cried
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Aftershe assaulted him, the man slept on the couch and wondered whether to go ahead with a divorce
The man kept telling her he was not having an affair with the coworker she would accuse him of being with. To alleviate her suspicions, he gave her complete access to his phone and text messages. He shared that just because he returned late fromwork, she would keep suspecting him. That’s why he always updated her and sent her photos to convince her that he was just working.
After giving birth, around 1 in 7 women tend to experience an illness calledpostpartum depression(PPD). This is a medical condition where a woman might face heightened anxiety, sadness, and tiredness that lasts for a long time after giving birth. These stressful feelings make it hard for women to manage and often require intensive treatment. That’s exactly what the poster’s wife might be dealing with.
The man also mentioned that one day he had to stay late at work, and because of an extremely stressful project, he forgot to send updates to his wife. When he reached home, she began freaking out and accusing him of cheating. He tried to hug her, and that’s when she slapped him so hard that he inadvertently began crying. That’s when he began questioning whether he shoulddivorceher.
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The changes in his wife’s behavior, her suspicion that he was cheating, and her aggressive actions could point toward the onset of psychosis after giving birth. Research on postpartum psychosis has found that “women with PP, however, are more likely to express homicidal ideation than women with nonpsychotic childbirth-onset illness, such as postpartum depression.” This means that postpartum mothers experiencing psychosis are at greater risk of causing harm to others.
Studies on this form of psychosis have said that it’s necessary for women to opt forinpatient hospitalization. Ideally, a space where the mother and child can be together so that there is no disruption of their bond during the initial stages. Considering the need for support, the husband could encourage his wife to seek counseling from trained professionals.
Some of the reasons for theonset of PPcan be the major physical and hormonal changes that occur after giving birth. These factors, coupled with lack of sleep and exhaustion, can lead to a very physically and emotionally challenging time for new mothers. Some of thesymptomsof postpartum psychosis are:
It’s important for people to look out for these symptoms so that they can find the best support for new mothers. Commenters also encouraged the poster to hold off on getting a divorce and to take his wife for counseling. Some netizens even shared personal stories of their struggles with PP/PPD and how they worked through it.
People urged the man to seek psychiatric support for his wife and stated that she might be suffering from a severe mental health condition
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