If you havesiblings, it’s possible that they oscillate between being yourbest friendsand your arch nemeses, depending on the day. But even when you’re bickering, you know that there’s a heart full of love behind the insults, and that you would help eachotherin a heartbeat if you ever needed anything.
But one woman doesn’t seem to understand the close bond that siblings share, as she went out of her way to be cruel to her partner’s sister. Below, you’ll find the full story that her partner recentlypostedon Reddit, as well as a conversation with relationship coachJane Parker.
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“If one partner perceives that their significant other has a particularly strong bond with a sibling, it can sometimes trigger feelings of inadequacy, competition, or even neglect”
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As you’ve probably heard before, a little bit ofjealousyin relationships can be perfectlyhealthy. It would be strange if you didn’t feel a tinge of jealousy when a stranger flirts with your partner in a bar or when you see people commenting on their Instagram photos complimenting their amazing hair. That tiny bit of discomfort means that you care about them and can be a reminder that you don’t want to share them with anyone else.
However, it’s important to know that there is no need toactupon this jealousy. It can be a fleeting thought because you trust yourpartner, and you know that they’re not actually going to go home with the woman from the bar or start flirting back with their Instagram followers. And a small amount of jealousy certainly isn’t any reason to make your partner feel like they’ve done anything wrong.
As far as where jealousy comes from,VeryWell Mindnotes that it may stem from being insecure or having low self-esteem, having a fear of abandonment or betrayal, feeling intensely possessive or desiring control, feeling like you own your partner, having unrealistic expectations about your partner or relationship, worrying about losing something important and more.
But jealousy can quickly spiral out of control when it goes unchecked. It can create resentment in relationships or cause defensiveness between partners. It might also cause intense emotional experiences, which can lead to physical reactions like trembling, dizziness, depression, and trouble sleeping.
To learn more about this situation, we got in touch withrelationship coachJane Parker, who was kind enough to have a chat withBored Panda.
“Sometimes, partners worry about feeling excluded, so being transparent and actively listening can reduce insecurities”
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It’s also best to reassure them of their importance. “Assure their partner that they hold a unique and irreplaceable role in your life. Remind them that relationships with family members are fundamentally different from those with a romantic partner,” Jane noted.
And remember to openly communicate boundaries and needs. “Discuss what each of you needs to feel valued and prioritized. If the sibling relationship has frequent involvement, you might talk about balance, ensuring that your partner gets quality time, too,” the relationship expert says.
It might also be helpful to include your partner in some family activities. “To build understanding and closeness, invite your partner to some sibling hangouts. This can demystify the relationship, reduce perceived competition, and foster a sense of belonging,” Jane shared.
And finally, encourage open communication. “Talk openly about how each of you navigates other close relationships. Sometimes, partners worry about feeling excluded, so being transparent and actively listening can reduce insecurities,” she told Bored Panda.
We were also curious about whether or not it’s a good idea to take space from a partner when struggling with relationship issues. “Yes, time alone can help people to process their feelings. It is important, however, to reassure their partner that they are taking the time to do that if they do want to stay in the relationship,” Jane shared.
“The time alone can create calm, self reflection, and possibly help them to empathize with their partner. It can prevent further conflict, so long as the reassurance is there. Some people do need the time alone in order to love forward from an argument.”
Readers were supportive of the author, and they joined in on the conversation to provide more details about the situation
The majority agreed that the author made the right choice, and many pointed out that this relationship has no future
However, some didn’t like how the author handled the situation
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