But that didn’t stop one man from immediately putting his foot down when his fiancée asked if they could take in her parents and help with theirmedical bills. Below, you’ll find the full story that the mansharedon Reddit, as well as some of the replies invested readers left him.
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After his fiancée’s father was diagnosed with cancer, this man’s in-laws reached out asking for help
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But he immediately refused to take them in or help cover their medical bills
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Later, the author clarified some details about the situation
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Many people struggle to become close with their in-laws
Planning a wedding can be an incredibly stressful endeavor. The event can easily be the most expensive day of your life, so it’s understandable for the bride and groom to want everything to be perfect. But it also often becomes complicated thanks to other issues in the couple’s personal lives or family drama that suddenly appears.
We all know it’s cliché to have conflicts within-laws, but it’s usually assumed that these problems pop up after the couple is already married. In reality, however, they can begin long before the couple even ties the knot. The author of this story noted that his in-laws have never been welcoming towards him, and they’ve made it very clear that they would prefer their daughter stay with her ex.
But where does it come from? Licensed Clinical Social Worker Nancy Tramontana says that part of the reason why parents are hesitant to accept their child’s partner sometimes stems from outdated stereotypes. For example, if the man isn’t the breadwinner or taking on a traditional, masculine role, the parents might be less willing to embrace him.
It’s also possible that their personality just doesn’t mesh easily with the family, and it might take time for them to adjust to the family dynamic.
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It’s important to be patient and understand that it might take time to grow the relationship
“Every family is kind of like its own country, with its own set of rules,” Tramontana told Fatherly. “And you don’t know what it’s like to live in that country at the outset. You have to survey the land.”
Now, there’s no guaranteed way to make your in-laws like you. As people say, “You can be the sweetest, juiciest peach in the world, but some people just don’t like peaches.” But if you’re interested in trying to get on your in-laws’ good side,Families for Lifehas some tips.
First, they recommend being realistic and understanding that it might take them time to warm up to you. Don’t take it personally if they don’t love you upon your first meeting. It’s also a good idea to make sure you show interest in them. Ask them about their hobbies, strike up conversations that they’ll be interested in, and perhaps even find time to hang out with them without your partner around.
It’s important to also listen to what they have to say. You’re not obligated to agree with everything or take unsolicited advice they may give you, but be respectful and make them feel seen and heard. And if they’re interested in learning something new, offer to help them! This can be a great way to grow closer, especially if it makes them start to appreciate having you around.
Many readers agreed with the man’s choice, and he joined in on the conversation
However, some thought that it was unfair for him to refuse to help
Later, the author came back with an update detailing where he and his fiancée stand now
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