This woman, for example, was 25 when she found out herparentswere keeping tabs on her with a hidden nanny cam. When her boyfriend found it at their condo, she confronted them. Their excuse was wanting to make sure she wasn’t being intimate with her boyfriend. Appalled and hurt beyond reason, the womanaskedfor advice online on what to do next.
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This woman confronted her parents when she found out they’d been recording her and her boyfriend at their apartment
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The legality of recording someone with a nanny cam depends on where they live and whether it’s video-only
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In the U.S., for example, nanny camsare legalin all 50 states, but they come with some strings.Recording peoplewithout their knowledge in bedrooms and bathrooms, for example, is illegal. In fact, recording anyone with audio equipment without their knowledge can be a crime.
That’s what people need to consider before getting a nanny cam or any other type of video or audio recording device. It all depends on where you live and whether you’re recording only the video or the audio too. The laws around audio recording are much tougher.
38 states in the U.S. allow people to record audio with the consent from one person in the conversation. Two-party consent is required in the other 11: California, Florida, Illinois, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Montana, New Hampshire, Oregon, Pennsylvania, and Washington. Vermont, on the other hand, doesn’t have laws that prohibit recording audio, so people consider it to be a one-party consent state.
In the UK, for example, nanny cams are legal as long as the person who’sbeing recordedis aware of it. “The short and sweet answer is, yes, you can get them – no, they’re not illegal, providing you put everything openly, and you tell the people that are going in that there’s a nanny cam in there,” security expert Steve Woodexplainedto the Daily Mail.
Recording someone in private spaces like a guest room, bedroom, or bathroom would definitely be illegal. And recording someone in a living room might be a grey area since it’sa common space. However, putting a camera in someone else’s home to spy on them changes the whole situation, probably making the parents liable to legal consequences.
Cutting contact with parents is easier said than done
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In reality, that’s easier said than done. People don’t understand the boyfriend’s stance on trying to maintain contact with the parents, yet it’s easy for strangers on the Internet to urge someone to go no-contact with their parents. Actually taking the step requires much more work and thought.
As Kate Stoddard, LMFT,told HuffPost, leaving your parents is terrifying. Still, she says, it’s better to try making the relationship healthier. “You may be living with this fear of loss, doing things out of guilt that you don’t want to do and then feeling resentful, or feeling controlled or beholden to others,” Stoddard explains.
When confronting parents about setting boundaries, it’s crucial to be assertive. Alyssa Mancao, LCSW, alsorecommendsthe “broken record” technique: “Repeat your needs clearly and concisely over and over.” She also advises people to be patient, as change in behavior doesn’t happen overnight. If nothing gives, well, then maybe going no-contact is the way to go.
The author clarified that the parents weren’t this controlling growing up, but everything changed when she got a boyfriend
Most people were appalled at the parents’ disregard for their adult daughter’s privacy
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